Well nothing has fallen apart so I guess it's still good. I know I love her and I'm pretty sure she loves me as we'll be by eachother until we die. There's enough equity here for her to walk away with a sizable settlement if she wanted to but shes still here. She still turns heads so she could find someone new but shes still here. So it's either love or complacency.lol

I have no doubts. I married my ex husband when I was very young. I thought that it was the right thing to do. He was my best friend, I was from a broken home, and wanted out. I have no regrets, as I have a beautiful son, and a friend 18 years later. But the second time, I married for love. I promised myself that I wouldn't settle. And I didn't. I loved my ex, but not enough to have committed my life to him. We weren't a good "married" match, but because of our history and all of the growing we have seen each other through, he has become my best friend. So do I love him? Yes, but I do not love him the way a wife should love her husband. And he never had that type of love for me either.

Before I got married the second time around, I asked myself.."Self, do you see yourself old with them?" And my answer was yes. I really am not sure that there is anything that would make me not love them as much as I do. Every marriage goes through rough times. We are only human. Our emotions change and we grow as individuals. But if the love that two people share is genuine, they will see each other through, have patience and support one another. If the desire to remain together is strong enough, then perhaps those rough times will just enhance the love that is already their. They say that make up sex is the best....and the reason is because the intense and passionate feelings that two people may have for one another is so strong, that it's as though you're falling in love again. Those lustful feelings return, because your want for your partner does too.

When we fall in love...it's always the right reason. But because young people have so much "soulful" growth ahead, we change. And just because those changes may not include our spouse, doesn't mean that there wasn't love in the first place.

My son was created out of love...I no longer wish to have a romantic or intimate relationship with his father. But when I look at him, I couldn't imagine him being the child of anyone else. Even for that small moment in time, his conception was one that was filled with hope, love, and trust.

Absolutely! I married my first husband when I was young and then he changed. He turned physical and mentally abusive. I was young and ready to start my life and just trying to escape my mother's house. I convinced myself at the time that I was in love but after things went downhill I realized I did not know this man at all.