Personally I think that you may want to switch to tocopherol (vitamin E) for a few days, and slowly reduce from there.

http://www.associatedcontent.com/article/672741/the_amazing_health_benefits_of_using.html?cat=5

About lip balm addiction . . .

http://thebeautybrains.com/2006/05/16/are-you-addicted-to-lip-balm/

One of the commenters liked something called labbri lip treatment.

http://www.labbri.com/flash.php

I have this same problem, my husband claims my lips only get chapped because I have spoiled them with chap stick. He's wrong because I started using the chap stick because my lips were constantly dry and cracked.

I recently started using Neosporin LipHealth. It's a little spendy but it has reduced my need for chapstick greatly and I've seen a big improvement in overall lip texture. i'd recommend it to chronic chap lip sufferer for sure.

I had an answer and I hope it doesn't post twice.

Anyway, I asked my boss if I could sue chapstick companies because of the theory (or urban myth) that chapstick caused chapped lips so everyone would have to keep buying chapstick. He wasn't interested.

I also feel the same about wrinkle creams. I could've sworn they were causing more wrinkles so I'd have to buy more wrinkle cream.

I use neither anymore. The only thing anyone needs for chapped lips and even wrinkles is water. Not soda. Not coffee. Plain old water. Besides a billion other benefits to the body, water fixes both.

Otherwise, I'd try something natural like olive oil or sesame oil. Doesn't seem the tastiest but I'm pretty sure something natural is better than lip balm or chapstick anyday.

If you are having an issue with chapped lips, lip balm is not a bad idea. However, if you truly feel it's an addiction stop using it by switching to vitamin E.
It will still keep your lips from chapping, but will not be your normal routine of lip balm.
Vitamin E can be found in any drug store or department store. It comes in the form of a soft gel type pill. Burst the pill and use your finger to spread it onto your lips.
You'll still get the soothing relief of a lip balm; however, you'll also be conditioning yourself to break the habit.
Another perk is you are likely to find that Vitamin E does a much better job at keeping chapped lips at bay and because it is truly correcting an issue within your skin you won't feel the need to 'condition' your lips as often as before.
Hope this helps!

Make sure you are getting plenty of water to drink.

Check any medications you might be taking and see if any one may contribute to you dry lips. I know when my allergies are flaring up and I have to take allergy medications my lips get dryer.

Changes in seasons and heating can make your lips dryer too, or spending a great deal of time out in the sun with unprotected lips. That can dry your lips out too.

Your body will get used to using a lip balm product and if you cannot stop using it, choose more natural options instead of man made ones or medicated lip balms. I know Burt's Bee Lip Balm works better for me than Chapstick does and knowing I am not applying a petroleum by product and using an all natural product whose label ingredients I understand makes more sense to me.

On occasion I use a natural oil if I have no lip balm. Olive oil works well.

Your body gets used to external sources that help keep your lips moist. If it does not drive you to much distraction and you aren't in pain, cut it out completely and give your lips a chance to reestablish their own moisture balance.

If you really cannot go cold turkey, try only applying it right before bed and maybe one or two other times during the day. Put it somewhere where you are not tempted to grab it constantly throughout the day if you are someone who uses it many times a day. Sometimes it is more habit than need. Wean yourself off of it.

Try not to lick and bite your lips while they are getting used to the reduced lip balm usage.

http://www.associatedcontent.com/article/242801/burts_bee_balm_vs_chapstick_lip_balm.html?cat=35

There are many different things that can cause your lips to be chapped and dry. It might be something totally preventable like licking your lips, weather conditions or dry air. You might also be having an allergic reaction to something in one of the products you are using. A natural lip balm could be very helpful for you. Here is a site where you can find a recipe for lip balm: