I would just ask that they call before coming and explian that you may be doing something that can not take an intruption. Most people will understand this request and have no further ado about it. Good Luck and Be stern in your request !!

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I have this problem for a couple of reasons. First, I just don't like uninvited guests. I'm not a great housekeeper, so it takes me awhile to get the house ready for company. When someone just pops in, they are liable to find the house in any state, even downright nasty, depending on what my workload has been lately. Second, I work at home with no set hours. I might be busy doing something with a deadline, and not want to be disturbed.

When people drop in uninvited, I usually just go stand on the front porch and talk to them, and they get the hint. If they continue to do it, or ask to come in, I just say "I'm sorry, but I'm very busy right now, but why don't you call me later, and we'll make plans to get together when I'm not working."

If they still don't get the hint, just put a sign on your door, with a notepad and pencil, that says something like "I am working. If this sign is up, and this is not a true emergency, please do not disturb me. You are welcome to leave a note with your number or call tonight and arrange a mutually convenient time for us to get together."

It's drastic, but it works most of the time. If THAT doesn't work, just be blunt, tell them they are being disrespectful and you will not answer the door for them anymore if they are not invited.

I don't answer the door after the first time somebody annoys me by dropping in uninvited. I can hear a car in my driveway and look to see who it is. If the person later asks why I didn't come to the door, I simply tell them I wasn't in the mood for company.

It's difficult and complicated to answer based on the little information you have given about youself, who the intruder is and the dynamic of your relationship. Since I'm not a professional counselor, I could only give you my opinion--which may or may not be good depending on whether or not I'm a moral/kind person or whether I'm synical/grumpy. Well, let's face it there are a lot more catagories of poeple than those I've give. I guess if I were to be honest to say it, I can't give you an answer. For all the reasons I've said above. I'm sorry.

If I don't want others to drop by uninvited at my house, I would just tell them to give me a call first before coming over. Then I would see to it that my answering phone is on saying I am busy at the moment and cannot entertain calls. Maybe this would give them a hint that I am busy and need to attend to some things and will not drop by at my house.

If for some reason he/she will not get the hint and appear on my doorway. I will just be honest that I am not in the mood and cannot entertain visitors. I think this would be best than acting uninterested or slamming the door on their face. I may not want visitors but I don't want to appear rude.

I have this problem with inlaws that live right up the road....MIL even showed up unannouced last night even though she thought I had company....they do it to everyone not just us...and then they get upset when you are not home when they DROP by....I have never been one to drop by anyone's house without their prior knowledge of me coming by...this drives me crazy and I feel it is very intrusive...they don't get the call first hint so I think I will start putting a sign on the door...DO NOT DISTURB>>>>call later!

I just don't answer the door. Just because you know where I live does not mean you can come over. The same holds true with my phone number.. just because you know it does not mean you can call me.