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How would you handle it if you found out your child was the class bully?
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December 12, 2009 09:46 AM
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That is a very hard question to answer. You raise the child to be considerate and kind to others and then you find that they are practicing the exact opposite at school. I want to say that you address it by taking away all the electronic gear in his room. Then after talking to him I might even arrange a therapist to discuss his need to bully. I think bullying is aggressive and needs to be addressed.
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December 15, 2009 09:26 PM
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I raised one of the class bullies. He had problems before he came into our lives, and those problems did not go away. The best we ever hoped for was for him to understand that what he did hurt others and that in turn hurt himself.
The thing that worked the best was to take away what he had taken from his victims: Their peace of mind. In our son's case, the thing that got taken from him was his ability to make choices. When he bullied others, he lost the ability to chose (depending on the level of the infraction) his choice of what to eat, what to read, how to spend his time. As he grew to realize the effects of what he did, the bullying lessened. I won't say that he ever really got to the point where he didn't bully anyone, but he did get to the point where it only happened when his lack of impulse control got the better of him.
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The thing that worked the best was to take away what he had taken from his victims: Their peace of mind. In our son's case, the thing that got taken from him was his ability to make choices. When he bullied others, he lost the ability to chose (depending on the level of the infraction) his choice of what to eat, what to read, how to spend his time. As he grew to realize the effects of what he did, the bullying lessened. I won't say that he ever really got to the point where he didn't bully anyone, but he did get to the point where it only happened when his lack of impulse control got the better of him.
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