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If you were in your early 20's could imagine yourself falling in love with an elderly man, say a 60 or 70 year old? Why or why not?

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October 28, 2009 03:49 AM
i an 24 now and i can not even imagine to fall in love with elder person who is how elder than me in age.it happens some time people fall in love with elder person but their love not last for long because the elder person is 100 % married and he or she not go to marry the person and also society do not like this kind of relationship,which has no existence.also one reason is after 60 or 70 the person has less years of life to live and he will never let a young girl to marry him because who's knows what going to happen next and what circumstance has to face to the younger person if the elder one unfortunately dies or got some serious trouble.so it is better to choose young person than elder one.
But as we know love is blind and every thing is fare in love and war.so anything could be possible.if someone finds true love in elder person,then my hearts says he or she should go with the elder person.but practically thinking there is no future of it.
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October 28, 2009 03:54 AM
While I am 29 and thus no longer in my early 20s, I still could not see myself falling in love with a man in his 60s or 70s. While there are certainly a number of handsome and even sexy older men, I do not think I would be attracted to a man that much older than myself. Moreover, we would be of two completely separate and distinct generations; generations that are quite far apart on the time line. None of our cultural references would be the same, we would not have grown up with the same TV shows, books, icons, etc. This makes getting to know each other that much harder - there is no common ground to start with. It also would make getting to know each others' friends that much harder for much the same reason.

In addition, I am pretty sure I want to have a child, and I am positive I want to have the possibility. With a man that much older than myself, odds are pretty good that he has already had and raised his children or made a conscious choice to NOT ever have children. And even if he was okay with a child, I wouldn't want to have a baby with a man who might not be able to play with it the way a child deserves or be there when he/she graduates from high school, college, gets married, etc.

A few years difference, even a decade could work. Much more, and I do not think I would be able to become involved.
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October 28, 2009 04:03 AM
I don't think I could. It's a matter of attraction, and at 20, I just wouldn't have found a man THAT much older than me attractive.

The oldest I ever went above me was 14 years and the youngest below me was 11 years, and quite frankly, the age differences DID cause some issues between us on various things. The guy younger than me wanted kids - my youngest was 11 or so, and I was done. With the older man, the age difference wasn't so bad at first, but a few years ago, I saw that man, who is now a very old 55, and realized that he is in a different place in life than I am at 38. He was talking about retirement. I'm just now fully getting my business up and going.

So as I said on another answer about age difference, I don't think it's the age difference that makes a difference most of the time, but rather where someone is in life, such as planning on retirement, wanting or not wanting kids, having grandkids versus having your own kids, etc.

Interestingly enough, I find that I can see what a young woman would want in an older man.... but I cant' see what an older man would truly want in a younger woman, unless she was just eye candy for his ego.

The other way around... I can see what a young man might find attractive in an older woman, and I can definitely see what an older woman might find attractive in a younger man, but I feel that would be more sexual-based and not relationship stuff.
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October 28, 2009 01:34 PM
No. Couldn't do it. I'm 29, so it's been a few years since I was in my early 20s, but even now I can't imagine falling for someone in his 60s, or especially his 70s.

First there's the issue of attraction. I go for strong men, the kind that can "throw down" in the bedroom and can sweep you up in their arms. And older man likely couldn't do this.

Plus there's the whole problem with him being able to keep up with me. Even though I can be a lazy lard bucket sometimes, other times I'm a manic mosquito who can't stop flitting from project to idea. I'd have trouble really loving an anchor who couldn't keep up.

And let's face it, even though you can't always control love, it would cool my feelings knowing that our life plans could never match up. I don't want to be a widow before I'm 40. I want to have kids. I want to travel and do exciting things.

But I'll make an exception for Tom Selleck. Tom, are you there?

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