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If you were to discover that your parents nuptial union came from the result of an arranged marriage, would you view them differently?
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October 23, 2009 04:10 AM
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No. Even though my parents' marriage was not arranged, they made a conscious decision to commit to one another, just as two people (potentially strangers) in an arranged marriage would have to have done. Every marriage takes the willingness of both partners to make it work and to accommodate one another. In the best marriages, that is done joyfully, naturally, like breathing, but it is always mutual. In arranged unions, I think the learning curve might be a bit steeper, but failure is not an option (because the individuals do not allow it to be an option). I guess my folks didn't allow for failure to be an option, either.
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October 21, 2009 07:15 PM
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I wouldn't because I know first hand that my parents love each other. I saw that love daily while growing up and never worried about it spilling over to me.
How they got married, where they got married and what, if any, were the causes for the marriage isn't important compared to the love you see and feel from both parents.
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How they got married, where they got married and what, if any, were the causes for the marriage isn't important compared to the love you see and feel from both parents.
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October 22, 2009 10:19 AM
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Yes, I would probably have more respect for them because they were two people, possibly strangers, who made a life together and learned to love one another over time. Considering how many "love" marriages end up in divorce, perhaps arranged marriages aren't such a bad idea.
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