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If you were unhappy in your relationship and had the opportunity to cheat would you? Why or Why not?

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quesera
October 23, 2009 10:38 PM
If I was unhappy, and realized it had gotten to the point where I wanted to be with someone else, I would leave my relationship. I wouldn't cheat because I would want to leave my relationship with my honor and integrity intact. I would want this for myself, but also to demonstrate to a new partner that I am not the kind of person who can't be trusted and who treats my significant other poorly. I think there is something to the "once a cheater, always a cheater" sentiment, even if only in the sense that they certainly haven't proven they can resist.

I have been in a pretty terrible relationship, where I had the option to cheat, but my self respect was worth more than that, even if my partner at the time was not.
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unwirklich
unwirklich
October 23, 2009 10:42 PM
I agree, entirely. :) I don't even have anything to add.
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romeo0830
romeo0830
October 23, 2009 11:06 PM
if i was unhappy in a relationship i would most probably not cheat, however i might find someone else before ending the relationship... this is depending on the legnth of time i was going out with them, this would also consider how much i care for them, usually i care to much to not really talk to many other girls while dating them... However if opertunity arose which it has before I did not over step my boundrys even though it was so tempting...

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cmajaski
cmajaski
October 23, 2009 11:13 PM
If I were unhappy in a relationship I'd end the relationship. It doesn't make sense to stay in it and then cheat on that person with someone else.

It's even much simpler. No sneaking around, no lying, no cheating. Just starting over with someone that I might be happy with.

Unless there's some reason you can't leave a relationship and I can't think of any off hand, but why stay in it at all?
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marisaupa
marisaupa
October 23, 2009 11:34 PM
If I were unhappy in a relationship I would end it first and not cheat. I would do so out of respect for the period of time that we spent together. Just because something didn't work out does not mean that the entire relationship was flawed. Also, it would be unfair to the new person I met. Cheating implies deceit. Your new partner should see you as someone who is honest and trustworthy, not as a cheater.
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gno
gno
October 23, 2009 11:45 PM
Nope, I wouldn't cheat. I'd leave.

If I can even consider for a moment about running to another man's arms, then I need to look at the bigger problem: Something is really wrong in my marriage and I need to either fix it (and leave the Cabana Boy at the gutter), or I need to walk away.

This is going to sound strong, but I think cheaters are cowards. They can't deal with the reality of their relationship and its problems, so they take immediate gratification at the expense of crushing and humiliating their spouse/girlfriend/boyfriend.

So I'd suck it up, make a decision about staying or leaving, and make sure all the loose ends were tied up with my old relationship. Then....if Mr. Cabana Boy comes knocking, I won't have any scruples about inviting him in for a bottle of wine!

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October 24, 2009 03:08 AM
When it comes to relationships,

http://www.sxc.hu/pic/m/c/cw/cwmgary/792317_monkey_business.jpg

I don't believe in monkeying around. In relationships, I need to finish one (and heal) before starting another. But I known people who had to have a grab onto the next mate before leaving the comfort and security of the one they are with, like a monkey grabbing the next branch before letting go of the one it has.

If we can't salvage the existing relationship and we decide to go our separate ways, there won't be anyone else until it's really, completely over.
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raerae2
raerae2
October 24, 2009 06:40 AM
No. If you are unhappy in the relationship, you should get out of the relationship. There is no reason out there good enough to justify cheating. If you don't want to be with someone, it is selfish of you to lie to them and sneak around. Not to mention, it will only make things worse in the end because chances are good that you would be caught if you kept it up without breaking it off with the person you are unhappy with.

But really, it makes no sense at all to stay with someone you are no longer happy with anyway. Why put yourself through the torment and the lying?
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sunshine09
sunshine09
October 24, 2009 02:40 PM
I would not cheat !! I have been in a funky relationship for some years now. We have several problems within it and we both know that before long the relationship will come to an end. Unfortunelty for both of us finacial reasons keep us together, but cheating has not and never will be an option for me.

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