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If your mother made a spectacle of herself at your wedding, would you be able to forgive her?

If your mother came to your wedding, drank to much and then made a huge scene would you be able to forgive her?
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lacalla
lacalla
Marked as Best! October 15, 2009 01:39 PM
I would ask her why she behaved that way. Talk it out with her. Explain to her how you feel. I would forgive her just because she is my mother and life is short.

Ask yourself if you were given a diagnosis that would shorten your life, would it matter what she did. If it wouldn't matter to you anymore, forgive her and move on.

Does she have a drinking problem? That's no excuse but she might not be totally in control of how much she drinks.
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epicurus
epicurus
October 15, 2009 12:48 PM
I would understand her with all my heart, I owe my life to her, How can i repay those sleepless night, the pain, and hardship she has to endure to care for me. My mother is my queen she can't do no wrong in my eyes.
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October 15, 2009 02:04 PM
I had the same thing happen to me at my wedding but by my Mother In Law. My husband stopped talking to his Mom over it for months until she was diagnosed with cancer. Life is too short to stay mad my husband still feels guilty for staying away from her for that amount of time, now that she is gone. She's your Mom no matter what she does nothing can change that. Just let her know how you feel, and move on. People make mistakes, we all do but don't make a mistake that you will regret later.
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electrosam
electrosam
October 15, 2009 02:36 PM
Well Yes.
Mother is the origin for life. Perhaps she would have a reason for that. Perhaps she is wrong. Every human makes mistake but not the God. Off course she is not the God. The best thing to do in life is Forgive Quickly. Might be she is feeling guilty later about what she did. Did you mate her after that ? Remember she is your Mother, origin of your life. Forgive Her.
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jillbeth
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October 15, 2009 03:20 PM
Of course I would, she's my mother! Life is too short to hold grudges. When alcohol is served at any celebration, someone is bound to drink too much and act like an idiot. I would blame myself for allowing alcohol to be served at my wedding reception in the first place, and then hope somebody got it on video.
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omicron
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October 15, 2009 05:40 PM
I'd secretly think it was funny, and would be happy for how she's added to the event with the stuff that makes for stories that people will remember, but outwardly I'd have to tut-tut.

Think about all the weddings you've been to.

Do you remember all the parts that went perfect, or were they so boring that you can't really distinguish them from any other wedding you've been to?

I bet you remember the things that *didn't* go according to plan, and be honest... did you *really* think it was a problem, or did you secretly think it was funny, and were glad for the entertainment?
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quesera
quesera
October 15, 2009 09:53 PM
I hate to be the one to say this, because I know it sounds harsh, but brides really need to get over the idea that their wedding is all about them and they're entitled to some picture-perfect fairy tale day. Yes, you ARE entitled to being treated with respect, and it sounds like you were not, but if brides didn't set their expectations on "heavenly bliss" a little bit of boozy relative could probably be brushed off. It someone is known to be a lush, they should quietly be assigned a babysitter, who can keep the alcohol consumption down and the spectacle out in the parking lot. If someone has a one-time slip, assume they are embarrassed to death, and don't rub it in. Her behavior doesn't reflect on you: it reflects on her. Be gracious, thank all your guests for attending, and remember all the good things about your wedding. Really, it's about being married now. Congratulations on starting a new life! You have a funny story for if your own child is ever getting married.
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