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Would you secretly install GPS on your spouse's car

if you thought they were having an affair or they were otherwise being secretive? If you do choose to install this do you follow him or her and hide in the bushes or whatever when they stop in order to catch them being 'bad'?
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kosta007
kosta007
November 07, 2009 03:24 PM
No，we can't do so,because family is created on the base of trust and respect.If we do so,it mean our family will breakdown.If I hear the affair,what I do is directly to ask my spouse.
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unwirklich
unwirklich
November 07, 2009 03:32 PM
No.

If you're in a relationship where you trust your spouse so little as to need to literally put a tracking device on them, whether they are doing something wrong or not the relationship is doomed.

In all cases of suspicion I ask my husband about it, thus far he has always had a sound and verifiable answer to ease my worry. Is it wrong to sometimes feel jealous or insecure in a relationship? No. It is however wrong when the relationship lacks the trust and communication for you to just talk to your spouse.
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knockknock...
knockknock...
November 07, 2009 03:56 PM
Well very sincerely i wouldnt care to
me and my spouse both have affairs and we both know bout it and both dont care
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pjmom23
pjmom23
November 07, 2009 05:31 PM
What's the point of tracking them trying to catch them doing bad unless you are intending to break the marriage and divorce? So, my answer to this is a resounding no if you want to stay married, and yes if you want a divorce. That's what it all boils down to anyway.
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jkr2008
jkr2008
November 07, 2009 05:47 PM
No I would not. if you don't trust them then you shouldn't be with them.
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thebandit
thebandit
November 08, 2009 01:36 AM
No. I made that decision right when you said "secretly." You can't criticize your spouse for being "secretive" and then turn around and do something like this. It doesn't matter if you have smoking-gun proof that your spouse is having an affair; this is an invasion of privacy and, since it involves deception, isn't all that different at its core from your having an affair yourself. And hiding in the bushes is just ridiculous. Two wrongs don't make a right. Just take the high road and confront your spouse.
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dalbergia_...
November 08, 2009 03:58 AM
No, even though we're not always on best terms, I have no reason to not trust her.
If I did find out that she was going someplace she shouldn't, I wouldn't bother with the GPS, I'd just let her go. In my mind, there is absolutely nothing more important in a relationship than trust. Not even love. You can learn to love a person you don't like. but you can't "learn" to trust a person who can't be trusted. I guess you could, but it would be a dumb thing to do.
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vicgoodwin...
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November 08, 2009 06:00 AM
No I do not believe in spying on someone. If I think they are not honest with me then spying isn't the answer. It would be better for me to confront them with my fears and at least let them know that they are behaving in a manner that is causing suspicion.
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