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Your old-fashioned father orders you around to do house work and makes a comment that it is a woman's duty to take care of a man.

Do you listen, or set him straight about his beliefs regarding women?
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Marked as Best! December 11, 2009 04:43 AM
Wow,I have actually been through this.My father grew up in an "old fashioned" family,plus he was in the Marine Corps for nearly thirty years,so he was set in his ways,but being that I,luckily,grew up in an era where women are able to do more than they could in the 1950s and so on and so forth,I didn't snap at him when he made such comments,but I did sit down with him and explain to him that I am human.I have feelings.I went into the whole quotation of 'if you cut me,do I not bleed?' speech. He didn't exactly come-around to my expressions and thoughts of what females are,but he doesn't make those comments anymore.I am very happy that I did such,especially because he now has a grandDAUGHTER from me.Now,I would snap if he spoke to her that way.Don't hold back.That only means you're not standing up for your beliefs and you aren't being true to yourself.
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December 11, 2009 10:26 PM
My father-in-law was like that. He was very much a shovenist, yet at the time I was working full time and going to school while my husband was unemployed. Here's what happened one day when I'd had enough...

My father-in-law was over at the house one day and opened the fridge to get a soda. He noticed a small spot on the bottom of the fridge about the size of my pinky nail which was a tea stain from my tea jug that I keep in the fridge. He said, "What is that?! (making a big deal out of it) Don't you think you should clean that up???" I said, "Steven's been very depressed lately. Don't be so hard on him. I'm sure he'll get that cleaned up as soon as possible." LOL He really didn't like me at all, but I really didn't care because the feeling was mutual.

I didn't buy into his shovenist BS one little bit. I just fed it right back to him in ways similar to what I describe above. If he didn't like it, he could leave. If my husband didn't like it, he could go with him.
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