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September 18, 2009 05:01 AM
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Ask her out to a really nice dinner. She probably wouldn't say yes to dinner if she's not into you, especially if you ask in a date-like way. She'll know what you're up to and say no. So if she says yes, you have a pretty good chance. At dessert, or whenever you feel is an appropriate moment, tell her that you're putting your cards on the table. Tell her how you feel. Be descriptive. Mention specific things about her, the way she speaks, thinks, moves... whatever it is that makes you feel the way you do... Women like to hear what it is that makes us different, and special to you. If you can see she's getting uncomfortable, back off, but like I said, she probably won't go to dinner with you if she's not interested.
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September 17, 2009 01:20 AM
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You didn't clarrify if you wanted to move closer to her... or further away.
If further away, then just do that... walk away.
If move in, then... with women... the easiest thing to do is state it in terms of feelings, as in, "I'm starting to feel more than a friend to you", and then hear what she says. If she doesn't like the idea, then you'll find that you'll have to move further away.
But in either case, you'll be outside the "friend zone".
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If further away, then just do that... walk away.
If move in, then... with women... the easiest thing to do is state it in terms of feelings, as in, "I'm starting to feel more than a friend to you", and then hear what she says. If she doesn't like the idea, then you'll find that you'll have to move further away.
But in either case, you'll be outside the "friend zone".
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September 19, 2009 07:59 AM
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Assuming the "friend zone" has gone on for a little while: Don't hold your breath and don't delude yourself, if there was mutual attraction you'd probably be dating by now...find somebody who is attracted to you and ask her out...
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September 19, 2009 04:57 PM
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Contrary to what Ronin said, most attractions start with the form of friendship. You don't just ask someone out without knowing them first. I think the best way to get out of the friend zone is to just blurt it out that you want to be more than just friends. Most of the time they will have the same feelings and accept your offer. If they don't you can still be friends.
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