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I really like this girl boarder line love but she said we cant be because her best friend is in love with me and she is... what should i do?
im really good friends with both and i dont want anyone to get hurt here.
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November 27, 2009 06:17 PM
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You're in a triangle here. You love one, they both love you, they're best friends. However, if they are true friends than they would allow one another to be happy. For example, lets say the girl you love is Sam and he friend is Pam. Sam and Pam both love you, and Sam doesn't want to hurt Pam. Pam SHOULD step back and allow you and Sam to be happy, because she loves the both of you and that's ultimately the goal here. Pam should be talked to about this, if she is stubborn and doesn't allow her best friend to be happy, than she isn't a good friend. What I would do in your situation is talk to the Sam and have her talk to Pam.
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November 27, 2009 10:13 PM
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While trying to form a threesome may work in very rare instances many have been successful at this alternate style of relationship the chances are that it probably won't work. Love is not rational and you should be very certain that the truist love will always prevail. There is no place for logic with this situation you can only follow your heart and go for the one that you truly love. Pursue it with all your passion. Everything else has a way of workin gitself out if you trust your heart. Don't go all logical on this.....it is a matter of the heart not the brain. Be a romantic. If she loves you also it will work itself out. Just remember to be honest about your feelings make sure you tell the other person that you do not have the same feelings for her.
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November 28, 2009 12:27 AM
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Don't get serious with either of them yet. Allow time to sort out how everyone feels. By not showing favorites and telling them outright that you don't want to force anyone (not even yourself) to choose one over the other, you'll get to know them both better and them you. Then when one or the other stands out more or stands up and the other steps back, you can take the relationship to the next level. No need to rush things. Enjoy having good friends and don't cut anyone off until everyone has sorted out their feelings naturally.
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