ow, it's kinda hurt. I don't know if you can do this but I think you should talk to him about your relationship. Ask him what the truth is. Be strong. Ask him how much he loves you. Is it better than her ex? Did he love you because he really loves you or just because they can't be together anymore? Let him think about it. Let him realize what he really wants. If you continue this kind of relationship, you will suffer. Don't let your heart be treated like this.

You should think of yourself too girl. In a relationship, both should be happy. What is the sense of being together if one is not happy? Can you take the idea that your boyfriend is with you but thinks of his ex? I'm not saying that you should break up with him. What i'm saying is, you should clarify things. You should really talk about this. I hope your problem would be solved. Love problem is always hard, be strong. I hope the best for you.

This is very serious. It sounds as if he would leave you to be with her if she just said the word.

So the problem now is two things:

1. What if she DOES decide to take him back some day? It sounds as if there is no question he would leave you and go.

2. How long will you be satisfied knowing that you are number two in his heart and life? You are his second choice. He has settled for you because he can't have her.

In my opinion he is using you and taking advantage of you. He is only with because he cannot have the woman he really wants. I think that is total BS. It's time for you to take charge of things for a bit. You should initiate a separation period and make him come after you the way he pursues her. Make him convince you that he wants you more than her, if he can. Since you found out that he said he would go back to her if he could, and that he still loves her, then he needs to get her out of his system and cut off all contact with her. Sometimes there is a certain woman that is very hard for a man to get over, and in those cases, the only thing that will work is long periods of time with no contact whatsoever. She needs to become a Christmas card friend. If you two end up together, she needs to be on your Christmas card list and get a card from the two of you once a year. He needs to agree not to have contact with her unless you know about it. The fact that he has other ex-girlfriends that have not affected him this way is proof that this ex is one that has to be dealt with differently than the others. Perhaps he can remain friends with the others. With this one? No way.