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Tips for a first online date/meetup?

What to say/not to say? How to make it go well? Red flags?
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March 21, 2010 03:35 AM
An online date? As in a chat online?
I would say give no information that would actually help them find you (i.e. exactly where you work, etc). Keep conversation light. If there's no "click" you want to be able to walk away free and clear.

A real date with someone you met online?
Definitely, definitely meet in a public place. Do not leave with them the first time. Do not give them your address the first time, or give too much personal information. Again, keep the conversation light.

I would say that no matter how you're interacting on a first date or meeting, watch for any information that is contradictory, hints that they have a temper or judgmental personality, or hints that they have a bad relationship with their family. Maybe it's a stereotype, but I don't trust a guy who doesn't get along with his family. Also, if he's telling you things like he works a lot, is hard to reach on the phone, etc., and seems to be priming you for always being confused and lonely, he's married.
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March 21, 2010 04:24 AM
As In my Experience and My Knowledge

An Online Date Should be a Long period to trust and belive the person whom we meet. If we started to day chatting online and tommarow if start meeting together is Not really work out and trustable in this Scenario.

So My Suggestion is when you meet some one online for a date Pls be chat with him for a long period to get to know more each other.
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March 21, 2010 05:16 AM
Depends what kind of repoir you have with this person from previous interactions. If you had good long lasting talks, then you might want to go to a restaurant so you can take the time to expound on it even more. If you had very brief interactions, you may want to go for drinks, so you can cut it off real quick if its not working out. Always try to go to a place where you can easily speak to each other, loud places make it difficult. Try to listen more then talk. A great question that will tell you a lot about the person is: "What do you want out of life?". Don't be nervous, just relax and enjoy the company of the person you are meeting with.
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March 21, 2010 11:47 PM
Meet in a neutral location that is crowded, maybe lunch first. Then just be yourself and see if the chemistry is there. Don't get dropped off back at the house no matter how comfortable you are just say you have to go somewhere for anything that they could not be involved in. Red flags-prison tattoos, makes you pay for your half(if your a woman) or if he insists on ordering for you (then he's controlling) and his language.
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March 24, 2010 12:48 AM
My biggest tip would be to keep your expectations in check.

There is a tendency to get very excited about someone you've met online because the focus is more about words and concepts, rather than physical rapport and chemistry. Don't draw over-the-top assumptions about him/her or set too high of an expectation; acknowledge that the written "other" will be substantially different from the in-person "other". If you can enter the situation with an open mind and no expectations, you'll be much more relaxed and even prepared for the possibility that chemistry does not exist.

It's best to meet in a public area to give yourself some added comfort and security. As cheesy as it sounds, be yourself, because the tendency is to over-exaggerate or sell yourself short to either agree/disagree with him/her. Once again, this goes back to expectations. It's natural to want people to like you; but it should never be at your expense.

If you're meeting in public, you've probably had time to discuss some initial topics. Revisit those to help start the conversation and find out about him/her. There's a lot to be said about non-verbal cues and topics that are discussed by the both of you. Continually be aware of these and listen to your 'gut' - it will rarely lead you in the wrong direction.

Best of luck!
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May 10, 2010 10:36 AM
So you’re going on a blind date. Few dating scenarios are as nerve wracking, and you’ve probably heard lots of horror stories about miserable blind dates. Your blind date doesn’t have to be a disaster, though, if you follow a few simple suggestions to help it be more successful.

Prepare Yourself

Communication experts say that we commonly form an impression of someone new within the first four minutes of meeting them. The first impression you make will set the stage for the entire blind date so prepare in advance to make a good one. Choose clothes that are appropriate for the date, not too revealing or strange. Get a fresh haircut, trim your fingernails, and shine your shoes if needed. On the day of date itself, allow plenty of time to get ready and allow extra travel time to wherever the two of you are meeting.

Where To Go And What To Do

Plan the date for a neutral location, preferably one where there will be a number of other people. When you don’t know the other person it’s not safe to meet in private, plus if you’re in a fairly active location it’s easier to disengage yourself from the date if necessary.

Most dating experts recommend that a blind date not be centered on a meal. If the date isn’t going well and you’re having dinner, you have to stick it out longer than if you’re meeting for coffee. There’s also the cost factor to consider. If either person is investing a lot of money in the date activity that puts more intense pressure on both people.

Blind Date Preparation - http://www.valentine-shop.com/blind-date-prep.htm
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November 04, 2011 06:49 PM
Here are my tips: before this, take some time and write a really nice and long profile description. Dating site search engine loves this stuff - the more details you put in it the better matches you'll get. Choose a dozen or so nice photos. Make a list of questions you would like to know about your potential date before meeting him/her in real life. I hope this was helpful
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my online dating experience from okcupid, match.com, eharmony and http://www.lesbianmistress.co.uk/
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December 16, 2011 07:37 PM
Make a list of questions that really interests you. And schedule a meet with potential partner in a couple of days up to a week. Don't tell any personal info until you meet them in person.
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a lot of dating experience at http://www.blacklesbian.ca/ and http://www.sexylesbians.ca/.
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