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You are dating a man that has peaked your interests in many ways, you catch him ill treating a dog, what do you do?
This man has been kind and gentle in every way to you. He is warm, witty and intelligent. You feel close to him. Then, you are shocked to find him kicking a dog for no rational reason. What to do?
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November 25, 2009 04:49 AM
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This is a though one, but somehow I would get the feeling that this man was putting on a front when he was trying to entice me. I have always been a firm believer that how a person interacts with and treats an animal can tell you a lot about how that person can deal with people as well. If the man I was dating was indeed abusing an animal so severely I would seriously question the type of person he portrayed himself to be in the first place. If you are an entirely nice and affectionate person, then you should not feel okay mistreating any creature in any way, whether it is a person or an animal. There are animal protective laws in place for a reason, and chances are this individual, if he is truly as intelligent as he puts himself out to be, would have to be aware of these laws. Violating these laws so blatantly in front of my very eyes would cause me to worry about his disrespect for laws and authority as well as his perceived grandiosity that allowed him to believe himself to be superior over others. I am not sure that after witnessing this incident I could continue to trust this individual. Today he may be hitting an animal and playing Mr. Nice-Guy with me, but what if after months or even years of being in a relationship with me he gets ticked off and lashes out at me, or worse, any future children we may have that he believes should adhere to his standards and rules perfectly? Sorry, but this appears to be a two-faced man and I simply could not take what he told or tried to show me in terms of affection and kindness at face value any longer. He is taking a very primitive way out of not getting his way, which in turn no longer makes him appear so intelligent. Violence is enough to make me take a step back and consider my options. Clearly there is little reason to abuse the poor dog this way, unless the dog just attacked a child and needed to be separated from the youngster before he could do some serious damage (which likely did not happen in this scenario). No, this guy is just putting on a façade trying to win me over, and when he feels certain of himself, he will let his true self show, which I have a feeling would not be that pleasant. I would have to break off the relationship or future dates.
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November 25, 2009 03:26 AM
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Get rid of him. Being mean to animals is a sign of aggression If he is kicking a dog, what does he do to children? Or if you have children, what will he do to their dog? I don’t know if you want to have children or do already have children, but is this any type of example to set for them. What will he do to you if you make him mad? If he did this around you, just what does he do when your not around?
Of course he could be one of those people who don’t believe animals are actual living beings, but are you comfortable with that? Want to live your entire life not being able to have a pet if you want one? I’ve been single for 4 years, trust me there are a lot of men out there. Some worst than this one, many much better. Don’t settle for less!
I wouldn’t kick a dog unless it was getting ready to attack someone. I mean come on! I would have to ask him... “just why was that necessary?” “Just what made you feel the need to do that?”
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Of course he could be one of those people who don’t believe animals are actual living beings, but are you comfortable with that? Want to live your entire life not being able to have a pet if you want one? I’ve been single for 4 years, trust me there are a lot of men out there. Some worst than this one, many much better. Don’t settle for less!
I wouldn’t kick a dog unless it was getting ready to attack someone. I mean come on! I would have to ask him... “just why was that necessary?” “Just what made you feel the need to do that?”
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November 25, 2009 03:52 AM
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Abuse to animals is very often an indicator of the the potential to abuse significant others or worse. There is no call to abuse an animal unless attack is imminent. In this case it does not sound like it.
Potential abusers are often very charming, good with women and people, and seemingly very confident. There are small cracks in this facade however and animal abuse is a big indicator.
Abuse is not always physical. A man who is overly jealous, controlling, puts you down, isolates you, and tries to make himself feel more important.
A man who will care about you and possibly children, will also care about animals.
Source: Addictions counselor, BS Psychology, BS Criminal Justice
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Potential abusers are often very charming, good with women and people, and seemingly very confident. There are small cracks in this facade however and animal abuse is a big indicator.
Abuse is not always physical. A man who is overly jealous, controlling, puts you down, isolates you, and tries to make himself feel more important.
A man who will care about you and possibly children, will also care about animals.
Source: Addictions counselor, BS Psychology, BS Criminal Justice
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November 26, 2009 04:13 AM
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Dump his sorry excuse for a butt! Seriously, this is a serious indicator that there is something wrong with his moral compass.
Think of it this way: Animals are weak, defenseless creatures (even the spoiled, lazy, messy ones who bark a lot!), and there's something really WRONG with a person who sees animals as disposable creatures unworthy of kind treatment.
Even IF this isn't an early indicator of spousal abuse or mistreatment of children (which it could be!), there's no excuse to harm, mistreat, or even neglect an animal. Get away now before you find out what ELSE is really wrong with this person that he was raised to see animals as kicking bags. Run away now.
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Think of it this way: Animals are weak, defenseless creatures (even the spoiled, lazy, messy ones who bark a lot!), and there's something really WRONG with a person who sees animals as disposable creatures unworthy of kind treatment.
Even IF this isn't an early indicator of spousal abuse or mistreatment of children (which it could be!), there's no excuse to harm, mistreat, or even neglect an animal. Get away now before you find out what ELSE is really wrong with this person that he was raised to see animals as kicking bags. Run away now.
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