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November 22, 2009 03:40 AM
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I'd tip the waitress myself, and seriously reconsider a second date with this person. As they say, you can tell a lot about a person by how they treat people like restaurant wait staff. And even if he forgot, a first date is exactly the time people should be paying attention to such things. To give their best impression, you know.
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November 22, 2009 02:59 AM
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I would tip the waitress myself while explaining to him that I used to be a waitress and how much tips were a large part of my income. Alot of people do not realize that waitresses earn only $2 per hour.
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November 22, 2009 04:49 AM
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I would tip them myself and if he noticed I would explain that tips are what make up their pay. They do not get the same pay we do. They depend on gratuities.
If he made some comment or believed he was better than the wait staff I would not be dating him again. It would show me a personality flaw.
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If he made some comment or believed he was better than the wait staff I would not be dating him again. It would show me a personality flaw.
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November 22, 2009 05:09 AM
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Its good that this happend on the first date. Im sure many people do that . Lots of people dont quite get the tip thing. On the other hand he might have thought that you were getting the tip (being the first date and all). Sometimes its best to set ground rules before you go on a date. IE: whos paying for the meal. If this any guage of what he is like do you really want another date? Anyway go back and give the tip. How would you feel if the next time you were up for a raise they decided not to give you one? serving people and doing a good job is difficult work. The tip is a direct reflection of work done and shows what kind quality person you are.
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November 22, 2009 01:07 PM
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"Hey, we forgot the tip, can I get it this time?"
Assume it was an oversight. Maybe he's not yet used to your stunning beauty and he just got rattled. I find it's best to give someone the benefit of the doubt the first time. If he's normally a non tipper or just a tightwad, it will come out soon enough. He may even respond to your reminder by telling you he doesn't tip, at which point it might be a good time ask him why (after you leave a tip yourself). If he doesn't know about tipping (maybe he's from some other country where he never ate out or they have differnt customs) , explain it to him. If he's just tight, tell him it's fine if he doesn't want to tip, but you don't date stingy. Date finished, no call backs on this one.
This guy, on the other hand is kind cute AND he tells about tipping:
http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=2lRly6qZJLo
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"Hey, we forgot the tip, can I get it this time?"
Assume it was an oversight. Maybe he's not yet used to your stunning beauty and he just got rattled. I find it's best to give someone the benefit of the doubt the first time. If he's normally a non tipper or just a tightwad, it will come out soon enough. He may even respond to your reminder by telling you he doesn't tip, at which point it might be a good time ask him why (after you leave a tip yourself). If he doesn't know about tipping (maybe he's from some other country where he never ate out or they have differnt customs) , explain it to him. If he's just tight, tell him it's fine if he doesn't want to tip, but you don't date stingy. Date finished, no call backs on this one.
This guy, on the other hand is kind cute AND he tells about tipping:
http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=2lRly6qZJLo
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November 23, 2009 12:56 AM
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How do you know? Wasn't he using a credit card?
Anyway, if he's paying, it's his discretion to leave a tip or not.
If you don't like people who don't leave tips, and you are confident he is one of them, then don't go out with him again.
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Anyway, if he's paying, it's his discretion to leave a tip or not.
If you don't like people who don't leave tips, and you are confident he is one of them, then don't go out with him again.
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November 23, 2009 08:10 PM
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I'd probably be diplomatic, saying, "Would you like me to leave the tip?"
That way, if he's already left the tip via the credit card statement, he can say so. Or, if he was going to skip on the tip, you've presented him with your feelings on the situation without making a scene.
If future dates reveal that the no-tip thing is habitual, and stinginess is a deal-breaker for you, you'll be able to take it from there.
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That way, if he's already left the tip via the credit card statement, he can say so. Or, if he was going to skip on the tip, you've presented him with your feelings on the situation without making a scene.
If future dates reveal that the no-tip thing is habitual, and stinginess is a deal-breaker for you, you'll be able to take it from there.
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