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October 19, 2009 05:31 PM
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Over the last ten years or so I have become more like my Dad in many ways. In several other ways I was already like him. Dad passed away two years ago, and many of the people who had not seen me for awhile, but came to the funeral, actually did a double take as I have begun to look more an more like Dad. Whenever I'm at a family reunion, the older generation is always pointing at me and whispering, and I know they"re saying how much I look like Dad. Lucky for both of us, Dad was not what you would call butt-ugly.
My Dad was also a man of faith, and as I grow older, I find my faith is more important to me than it once was. This is somewhat surprising, in the sense that I didn't sit down one day and say "I think I'll begin to grow my faith today", it just slowly happened over time.
In some ways I have been like my Dad for a long time; falling asleep on the living room floor after dinner, snoring loudly, making up words to songs and telling goofy jokes. I also have his opinionated way of expressing himself more abruptly and more loudly than necessary at times.
Pops was my hero, and I wish I were more like him, warts and all. I think he was a better man than I will ever be, but I try to make him proud of me, even now.
Mom and I are alike intellectually. We think a lot the same.
Some people are nothing like their fathers:
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Over the last ten years or so I have become more like my Dad in many ways. In several other ways I was already like him. Dad passed away two years ago, and many of the people who had not seen me for awhile, but came to the funeral, actually did a double take as I have begun to look more an more like Dad. Whenever I'm at a family reunion, the older generation is always pointing at me and whispering, and I know they"re saying how much I look like Dad. Lucky for both of us, Dad was not what you would call butt-ugly.
My Dad was also a man of faith, and as I grow older, I find my faith is more important to me than it once was. This is somewhat surprising, in the sense that I didn't sit down one day and say "I think I'll begin to grow my faith today", it just slowly happened over time.
In some ways I have been like my Dad for a long time; falling asleep on the living room floor after dinner, snoring loudly, making up words to songs and telling goofy jokes. I also have his opinionated way of expressing himself more abruptly and more loudly than necessary at times.
Pops was my hero, and I wish I were more like him, warts and all. I think he was a better man than I will ever be, but I try to make him proud of me, even now.
Mom and I are alike intellectually. We think a lot the same.
Some people are nothing like their fathers:
http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=GwExDG7n7Zg
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• The slowly happening over time is exactly what I'm finding. Its not deliberate. In some way it worries me and on the other hand I am impressed that I'm picking up some of his qualities...
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October 19, 2009 12:57 PM
I get on great with my Dad.. and he's a great guy. No problems there. However there were a few things that drove me mad when I was growing up. Certain phrases he used, some things that he did. And now I find myself doing the same things.... despite myself.
I wouldn't say that its a problem... but it is worrying somehow.
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I wouldn't say that its a problem... but it is worrying somehow.
October 19, 2009 12:56 PM
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In some cases, yes and in others, no. I only noticed this once I had kids of my own.
I've learned how to lovingly raise a family and at the same time what not to do that's counterproductive to growing kids. You need to learn from their mistakes and take their best qualities in order to incorporate them into your life.
You are a 'product' of your parents, so you will maintain many of their qualities. It is completely up to you to pick and choose what qualities and beliefs you want to keep for yourself.
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I've learned how to lovingly raise a family and at the same time what not to do that's counterproductive to growing kids. You need to learn from their mistakes and take their best qualities in order to incorporate them into your life.
You are a 'product' of your parents, so you will maintain many of their qualities. It is completely up to you to pick and choose what qualities and beliefs you want to keep for yourself.
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October 19, 2009 06:48 PM
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Actually, I don't think I'm much like either of my parents. I get along with my mother more and more, and respect her tremendously, but we're fundamentally different people. Sure, important parts are the same -- we both have similar senses of morality, we're somewhat similar intellectually -- but I'm a lot more reserved than she is, a lot more secretive perhaps, and I don't have the "host" aptitude that she does, to say the least. All of this comes from my father, but I don't really like to associate myself with him, because he is a terrible person. I don't mind becoming more like my mother, but I don't need to be any more like my father than I already am.
And then there are several traits that are all me. A lot of these come from what I read/listened to/watched as a child. My interests, so to speak. They've made their mark on me. My sense of humor, for instance, was crafted from all sorts of books and such, and nowadays the Internet.
What I do have more and more these days, though, is a sense of a family bond. By that, I mean I'm always consciously aware of The Family, as a sort of group, and protective of it. And I want to succeed not just for me, but for them too. It isn't something I was pushed to do. It developed on its own. And I think it's a good thing.
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And then there are several traits that are all me. A lot of these come from what I read/listened to/watched as a child. My interests, so to speak. They've made their mark on me. My sense of humor, for instance, was crafted from all sorts of books and such, and nowadays the Internet.
What I do have more and more these days, though, is a sense of a family bond. By that, I mean I'm always consciously aware of The Family, as a sort of group, and protective of it. And I want to succeed not just for me, but for them too. It isn't something I was pushed to do. It developed on its own. And I think it's a good thing.
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October 19, 2009 08:29 PM
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I have great parents, so if I did turn out to be like them I think that would be okay. That being said, they've both been great at never forcing their views, opinions or even mannerisms on me throughout my upbringing. I think I may be less like them than most people would expect. Biological relatives will always have some similarities, but we've always celebrated our ability to make decisions independent of one another.
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October 20, 2009 03:21 AM
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As I have grown older, I see more and more of my mother coming out in me, not all of it positive. While I love my mother very much, she has many traits and behaviors that I do not want to inherit. Seeing these traits occasionally come through has made me much more aware of those behaviors and their triggers. It is my hope that this awareness will help me to prevent these habits from becoming permanent aspects of my personality.
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