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Do you worry about what others are thinking about you? If so, do you let perceived social judgment change your actions and behavior?

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annelisle
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Marked as Best! November 21, 2009 10:05 AM
I have this type of personality where I want to please everyone, so my answer to your question is yes but that was before when I was young.But as I have matured and gained many experiences I was able to change this. I used to be conscious of what other people might think of me. And this is not healthy because I became more conscious to the extent that I have sacrificed my happiness and myself as being unique individual and my freedom to choose. This made me a prisoner because I want to become what others want me to be instead of choosing my own path and making a mark in this world. This prevent me to grow as a person.

After joining a religious organization, I gained confidence and had a clear sense of direction. I know where my happiness lies and that is to become the best that I can be in the eyes of God. I realized that it is impossible to please other people because they might either think highly or less of you. So, slowly but surely, I have learned to accept criticism and I use that as a challenge to improve but I don't use that as a guide to my achievements and happiness. Spiritual growth became my motivating factor and my guide to know if I am in the right direction.

And now, I know my purpose in life and that is to experience God's love through my family, friends, and fellowmen and to please and love God above all. To become an instrument of His love towards others. To make a difference in other people's life no matter how small it may be. Now, I am not conscious anymore of what others may think of me. As long as I know that I am pleasing to Him and that no matter how much I failed Him, He won't forsake me if I will just continue to have faith and trust in Him. That's what matters most to me more than anything else in this world.
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November 22, 2009 04:19 AM
I agree with you, annelisle. I also have experienced the same but now as I get older, I feel it slowly is lessened. Maybe because I'm getting more emotionally mature and realize that no one can help me but myself.
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November 21, 2009 04:40 PM
Part of the problem is a person will think what they are going to think regardless of what you think about their judgment. The other part of the problem is that what a person thinks about you or says about you really has more to do with them than you. It's true that a liar has a hard time believing other people because that's his or her reality, lying. It is also true that a cheater will more readily accuse their partner of cheating, or at least be more suspicious of it, because that's their reality, cheating. Furthermore, other people's opinions are a portion of life that you cannot control, so why try? Why let it have control over you? It's pointless to worry about what others think of you. So, no, I don't change my actions based on what others think. I let them think what they want and have faith that some day that person will have to walk in shoes similar to the ones I a walking in at the time. Incidentally, I also do not judge those who are judgmental. I merely have faith that they will learn the error of their ways one day and be thankful I have already learned that lesson.

Incidentally, one characteristic of being a leader is doing what you need to do, how you need to do it, regardless of other's opinions. Be a leader, not a sheeple.
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