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Is it healthy and productive for two spouses to work together for the same employer?

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Marked as Best! October 30, 2009 05:49 AM
No.

It's important for couples to have different paths in life in order to both have a sense of feeling "hole" (independent) and share their experiences with one another. Unless they are in different fields and have equal time apart as they do together then it is unwise to work in the same atmosphere within the same career.

Some couples work well in this situation but only for a time.

For instance some couples work well together in a highly stressful environment if they are both contributing time to the same extravagant goals and gaining self confidence about themselves and intimacy about their partner.

PERHAPS a good example of this is the marriage between Duane Chapman and his wife who both work as bounty hunters and do investigations together.

Incidentally and oddly enough both have twitter accounts, and both tweet often.

That example might be a little over the top for some people. Take it for what it is.

As time goes by however and each partner adjusts to these stresses in their own way, the level of intimacy and chemistry between each partner will start to become less intriguing for one or the other.

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I think it has greatly to do with what kind of stresses and goals you have inside your working environment.

Try and remember to be compassionate about your partners image and how they might want to portray themselves to their other colleagues.

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October 30, 2009 11:39 AM
Yes,Both my husband and I worked together for 4 yrs. It was great.Different departments but same employer.We saw each other all the time! We had an employer who was great about it also.Family was a big part of the companies motto.
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October 30, 2009 03:10 PM
My husband and I worked in the same department at the same place for about 7 years. It ultimately ended in divorce. Not just because of that, but a number of reasons. I can say being together 24/7 didn't help.
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October 31, 2009 01:52 AM
Maybe it depends on the personality of the couples.

If they are the competitive type of person, then being one company wouldn't work. The tendency is that you'll have conflicts when it comes to your jobs. If you're too possessive of your partner, you probably won't be able to communicate well with other employees in the company.

But if you both are more understanding in the situation and don't really care on the position you both have, plus you put in your mindset that in the office, you are office mates and not couples, then it could work. :)

I'm working at work with my boyfriend and so far, we're not having difficulties in it. So I think it just depends on the couples attitude. This set up works for some, and not for others.
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November 01, 2009 12:54 AM
Working with same employer doesn't mean working in the same office or space, especially when the company is a big company. You can work for Walmart and never see each other during work if one works at the office as the accountant and the other as the cashier outside, or they can work at the company's different branches. If this is the case, it should be an issue.

But if they work in the same space, then yes, it will be an issue because it is harder to separate personal live and professional live, and they will get in a way on way or another.
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