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What time is too late to call someone just to talk? My grandparents always said no calls after 8:30 that was along time ago.

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Marked as Best! November 21, 2009 01:18 PM
I am a parent and grandparent and long ago asked my family and friends to please not call me after 9:00 p.m.

I really prefer before 8:00 p.m., actually, because at 8:00 p.m. is when I try to "unwind" and watch an hour or two of TV or a Netflix movie.

It is not always appreciated to receive chat phone calls that interrupt a program.

Many older people do prefer daytime phone calls for that reason or because we tend to get up early and go to bed early.

It does, however, come down to finding out when the recipient of your phone call PREFERS to receive calls and go by that schedule.
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kty2777
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November 21, 2009 02:44 AM
Our house rules have always been before 8.30pm for a chat, up to 9pm if its something important that can't wait.

After that it infringes on family and individual 'down time' and I think a quiet house makes it easier to get to sleep.

My teenagers don't always follow the rules however :(
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emeri
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November 21, 2009 07:44 AM
The latest time for a phone call depends on the household. Is it a daytime household or a nighttime household? Not everyone gets up early in the morning to go to work or school. Some people work or go to school at night and sleep in the day. Late night chats or middle of the night phone calls may be the norm for some. For those that want to make late evening or night phone calls, they should be aware of the family's schedule and what their policy is for the timing of phone calls.
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November 21, 2009 02:11 PM
The majority of phone calls made in this house are business related because my husband is self employed. Most business calls are made before 8 p.m. When I do make social phone calls to my children it's always anytime before 10 p.m.
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pjmom23
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November 21, 2009 03:19 PM
Today it's much different. Back in Grandpa's day, most of the country slept at night and worked during the day.

Here are a few ideas for calling people. If they have children, try to call them before most children's bedtimes (somewhere between 8:30pm and 9:00pm). If however, you have an emergency, and need their assistance, I am sure they will understand your calamity no matter what the hour. Yet, another point of view could be that the person to be called is youthful, works nights, and lives alone or with others who share this same night owl schedule. They truly would mind a daytime call, so nights it is! The point I am making is, try to make your calls to people based on their schedule, and not your own. It's their home time you will be interrupting no matter what time of day you do call. A person's home is their secure place, and therefore should be treated as their castle. The respect you give them in this small regard will secure your place as their friend.
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mpmomof3
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November 22, 2009 01:40 AM
My mother always told me not to call after 9:00 p.m.
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catt969
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November 22, 2009 02:19 AM
We, like so many other households, do not have a house phone. We all have cell phones. My parents do have a house phone and I know to call before 10 pm. The rule at my house for my children is no making calls after 9:30 pm and their cell phones are turned off between 9:30 pm-6 am everyday. Unless My husband and I are away from the house then their phones stay on until we get home.

For homes who still have a land line, I think that it is important to know the person that you are calling. I make it a habit to ask people what times are good times to call. They all vary and I comply with whatever the request is.

For people with cellphones, I still ask but most will tell me that when a call is inconvenient, they will either shut down the phone or turn off the ringer.

So I feel that if you are not sure about what time would be too late, then don't call after 8 pm but then ask them when you get the opportunity.
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thebandit
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November 22, 2009 03:31 AM
Depends on the person and his or her circumstances. For instance, I'm in college now and a lot of my friends are up until all hours of the day. It isn't unusual for me to call them past 1 a.m. or so and have them pick up and have sustained conversations! Other people, though, go to bed earlier, so I don't call them at those hours.

Honestly, though, it's usually safer to text after about midnight or so. It's a lot quieter. Even if your recipient is up, other people around him or her might not be, especially in a dorm or apartment setting. And if they don't answer, it's MUCH quieter -- just one ring as opposed to several.
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marisaupa
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November 23, 2009 02:46 AM
I feel with schedules the way they are now, most people don't arrive to their household until 7pm or 7:30pm. In that context, 8:30pm seems relatively early. I am usually just finishing dinner at that time.

I personally use 10pm as the limit for casual calls to another household.
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