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When was the last time you wrote a thank you note? Would writing more make life better?

Someone wrote me a thank you note after I did them a little favor. Somehow it meant more than them just saying thanks. When was the last time you wrote a thank you note?

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Marked as Best! October 15, 2009 11:28 PM
I write thank you notes on a regular basis (I am 29). In fact, this thread just reminded me I owe someone one. I was brought up that if someone does something for you or gives you something, you should write them a thank you note. It is a tangible way of acknowledging their kindness and letting them know you are thinking of them. Email is too impersonal (in my opinion) to accomplish this in the same manner that a thank you note or card does. While I know very few people write thank you notes anymore (and I do think that this is detrimental), I will continue to do so. I know how much I like receiving thank you notes, and like giving that same feeling to those who have contributed something to my life.

I do think that there is something to be said for trying to perpetuate this process. It does seem that our society (meaning America) has gotten increasingly more rude. Kanye West and Serena Williams are just two recent examples. As more and more of the social niceties of the time before the internet and text messaging and cell phones erode, it does seem like people forget just why they should be polite and how to do so. If I ever have children, they will be hand-writing thank you notes right along with me.
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• The fact that email is so easy to send means that it's nearly disposable. A thank you note takes a bit of effort, and that makes a difference. I'm certainly going to start to send some.
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October 15, 2009 06:15 PM
I can't remember the last time I wrote a thank you note, sending an email is so convenient. I have received handwritten letters recently though and I have to admit that handwritten always seems to mean more to me. It kind of feels like the person put extra time and thought into the note than just typing a 2 second email.

My daughter handwrites all of her thank you notes and loves to write and draw. Unfortunately I don't see that lasting long as she's only 6, but I've noticed that people really enjoy the little notes she writes to them whether it's a thank you note or just a note saying, "I love you, Grandma". Handwriting is becoming a thing of the past but I'll definitely miss it.
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October 15, 2009 06:42 PM
I can't remember when I last did it. It seems to be a cultural thing and maybe a generational thing as to whether people write notes or not. Personally for a small favor I'd find it odd to get a written note of thanks. I'd take it in the spirit it was meant of course, but it'd seem a little quaint. Esp if as in the example in the article you linked it's something you do regularly for the other person, and they write you thank you notes about it every few weeks.

Actually the nicest thank you as far I'm concerned is neither a handwritten note, nor being told verbally, but just to see geunine appreciation on someone's face.
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October 16, 2009 04:45 PM
Though it has been a long time since I have handwritten a thank you note (love letters are a different story...), I do send emails of appreciation on a regular basis. It's certainly nice to get something handwritten, but I think that the convenience of email actually makes people more likely to say thanks. I actually get *too many* thank yous via email and find it frustrating when someone at work responds to an email with just "thanks".

I think more sincereity and thoughtfulness is what it needed, for instance doing a favor in return, rather than just sending more perfunctory more notes.
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September 21, 2011 06:59 AM
You don't have to write a long thank you note, just write from the heart. By following some simple tips, you can write a great one. I have learned a lot about writing thank you notes from the following web site. It provides lots of sample thank you notes.
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http://www.thank-you-note-examples-wording-ideas.com/
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