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Why do anger mannagement counselors even have the nerve to ask quote "And how does that make you feel."

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November 13, 2009 11:01 PM
While that is a trained response and may indicate the need for a counsellor with more experience, it is generally believed that an attempt to understand the root cause for your upset is more important than the upset itself.

So your first response is probably, "it makes me angry!", but given time to ponder an underlying emotion you might realize that you're feeling threatened but by what? Further introspection may reveal that you feel out of control. Even deeper realization may reveal an earlier and more impressionable time in your life when you learned that lashing out was preferable to being wrong. Who knows? Only you.

Anger is a surface, knee-jerk reaction. Chances are you're angry about things that don't even deserve it. What if there was more to life than being angry? You have more to you than primal emotions. Allow yourself to be seen and understood. Take the risk of being discovered and not being loved for it. The other side of that risk is that someone will see you for who you really are and LIKE you. For many people that's the scariest thing of all. How can someone else love what we don't? It's easier to get mad than get real.

The simple fact that you're angry and their not might be worth considering that even if you don't agree with the methods, there might be an answer in the technique somewhere. Don't be scared, er, I mean too ANGRY to try anyway. :)
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