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Would you sell your grandparents house that you just inherited if it was a total wreck but they never wanted you to give it up?

Your grandparents worked hard to build and pay for their home 50 years ago. Now their home is still in decent shape, but the inside is a wreck, filled with unnecessary belongings. You have no use for their home (since you have one of your own), but before their death both grandparents always stressed how important it was to them to keep the house in the famiy. Would you still sell it?
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Marked as Best! March 20, 2010 04:28 PM
Well, as long as the house itself is in good shape and taking over the care of the property would not create an overwhelming financial burden that the surviving family members truly could not handle, I would very much want to keep it in the family as the grandparents wished. I'm sure most folks would have had the intention of helping the family by leaving them the house and would not want it to be a burden after they've passed.

I've participated in my share of removing truckloads of stuff from inside homes after relatives died, and I know it's not exactly fun but it needs to be done. So many of those "unnecessary belongings" need to be sorted through and can benefit people who need them, especially when it comes to clothing and furniture.

The home could be kept in the family for one of the grandchildren, great grandchildren, a cousin or anyone else you'd like. I think it would be lovely to find some way to make good use of the place. Perhaps one of the grandparent's elderly friends would like a decent house to rent for a price they can afford, or perhaps a college-aged member of the family would need a place to stay. So often, there is something that can be worked out and someone who needs a home.

If the house is located near a medical center, I might even have some discussions with those in charge of the hospital about the possibility of allowing the relatives of patients to stay in the home when they visit from out of town. This could provide an inexpensive rental option for those who don't want to deal with hotels, and perhaps be of some comfort to those going through a difficult time emotionally.
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March 20, 2010 04:43 AM
No. Honor thy ancestors above all else.

I'd sell my own home and pass theirs down throughout the generations as they wished. To disobey a dying wish is a great disrespect.
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March 20, 2010 04:44 AM
Clean it up and then sell it or rent it out. But then how nice is the house when it is fixed up. Is it something I would move into. Was it an old flat roof rialroad style house or did they have a beautiful house with woodwork and all that. I love old houses for that and that is why I purchased an old Victorian. As far as the sentimental value I would have to guess it was a nice house if they wanted it to be kept but if it was junk I would have never said I would keep it to them but just listened.
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March 20, 2010 07:28 AM
I would strive to maintain the house the best way possible in accordance to my means and the wishes of my grandparents. I realize that there may be times when perhaps it is just not possible to sustain an old home; but I would definitely do everything in my power to keep it.
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March 20, 2010 09:11 PM
I'm not necessarily against obeying their wishes, but let's hope they also left a large amount of cash to pay for substantial renovations and years of upkeep. I think the decision is easy enough as long as I don't contribute any of my own money. If there's always going to be some cousin who wants to live in it on the grandparents' estate's dime, fine. If I start contributing my own cash though, everything changes. My cash = my control.
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March 20, 2010 10:49 PM
I would not sell it unless the financial well being of the family made it necessary. If I had a house of my own, I would offer it to another relative that may need more adequate housing. Or, I would rent it out. Keeping in mind that I have my own house to care for, taking on this responsibility may not be possible for some. I would do my best to see to it that their wish was carried out. But if I had to I would sell it...
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March 21, 2010 03:05 AM
I can genuinely understand this question and the conundrum that it involves. The house I am living in right now was given to me by my mother. I had lived in it myself growing up so it's always been in the family, per se. My dad and mom always told me that this house would be mine someday. (I am an only child) It always meant a lot to me to be able to move back to my old neighborhood and live in the house again after I had moved out and married and got my own house.

It happened that I was living with my husband at the time of her death in an apartment so the house was a great thing for me. I ended up with a mortgage on it but that's another story. I do feel the warmth of my parents in this house, but right now it sure could use a lot of work done to it. I'm sure if my mother would have known that the house would eventually become such a burden on me, she might have told me to sell it and take the money. I had all her furnishings in the house when I moved in. It was difficult because I technically had my furniture and hers. I ended up getting rid or selling the furniture that was the most worn and kept the rest. After 10 years, there is still a couple of closets that still have her stuff in them that I have never cleaned out.

If you don't want the house and absolutely loathe the idea of moving in there, I think it would be fine to sell it and not live in it. I'm sure your grandparents would not feel bad about it. You need to do what is best for you.
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March 21, 2010 09:02 PM
It was important for your grandparents to keep their house in the family, and they did. Now it's yours, and you decide what to do with the house.
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