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Would you turn your friend in to the cops?
We were all hanging out at a house in a new neighborhood. My friend borrowed my truck and about 45 minutes later he came running in the back door and out the front door and kept right on going. Turns out the police were chasing him for traffic violations and failure to stop. I told them I only knew his first name and that he had given me $20 to borrow the truck. They gave me one day to get his name and place of residence or they said they would take my truck and arrest me. I was almost positive they were bluffing. Would you have turned in your friend?
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October 25, 2009 10:32 PM
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If someone used my truck to commit a crime, yeah I'd make sure they answered for it. How disrespectful does a person have to be to do bad things in a borrowed vehicle? Your excuse about the $20 doesn't hold water since cops know that a person can sell a truck without the pinks for at least $400 just for the catalytic converter to a metal dealer. Who would let someone borrow a truck? You can get in serious trouble for lying to the police, aiding, and of course being an accessory after the fact. I wouldn't do it if I were you. And yeah, since your truck was involved in the crime, some cops depending on where you live, can impound it. Sorry.
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• You're sure right about one thing. The police didn't buy my $20 excuse for a minute. That's why they put so much pressure on me.
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October 25, 2009 01:36 AM
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Yes. I would have. It's horrible that he would even put you in a situation like that! He had absolutely no regard for you or respect for your property when he began running from the cops, so why should you take the fall for his wrongs? If he confronts you about it later, turn it right back on him since he was the one with the poor judgment. All you would be doing, by turning him in is making him take responsibility for his actions. There is no harm or wrong in that.
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October 25, 2009 01:52 AM
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Yes, they can arrest you and take your truck. They don't know it wasn't you in it, and you are ultimately responsible for any damage he did. Turn him in. No friend is worth losing that much for. He obviously thought nothing of sticking you with the bad end of the situation.
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October 25, 2009 01:59 AM
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First, what ha your friend said to you about all of this. One has a responsibility to friend, but one also has a responsibility to society.
Your friend also has a responsibility to you. How dare he place you in such a situation.
My suggested solution, talk to your friend, express your displeasure in being placed in that situation and tell him if he wants to retain your friendship, he must turn himself in and clarify this issue.
Second, unless the police have some executable warrant or court order, any contact with them should be done through your attorney. If they return, refer them to your attorney. Whatever you do, turn your friend in or not, it should be done through an attorney. No exceptions.
If your friend does not face this himself, then you will have to provide the authorities with the information that you have regarding this matter, the last think you want is a charge of obstruction of justice or providing false information.
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Your friend also has a responsibility to you. How dare he place you in such a situation.
My suggested solution, talk to your friend, express your displeasure in being placed in that situation and tell him if he wants to retain your friendship, he must turn himself in and clarify this issue.
Second, unless the police have some executable warrant or court order, any contact with them should be done through your attorney. If they return, refer them to your attorney. Whatever you do, turn your friend in or not, it should be done through an attorney. No exceptions.
If your friend does not face this himself, then you will have to provide the authorities with the information that you have regarding this matter, the last think you want is a charge of obstruction of justice or providing false information.
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October 25, 2009 05:13 AM
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It all depends on what he does, if it is severely detrimental to the society I will turn him in. For example, if he is contemplating and seriously considering murdering another person whom I judge to be entirely innocent, then I will turn my friend in. But if my friend does a light crime like shoplifting a few things from a grocery, then no way would I turn him in for that!
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October 25, 2009 02:59 PM
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Hmm...
It sounds like your friend probably didn't really do anything on a felony level... seems more like a serious misdemeanor. Do you really think there's a chance the cops were bluffing?
If it was me, and if it was for a felony, I'd point him out. I'd hate doing it, but felonies aren't funny, and you don't need friends like that.
However, if it's a serious misdemeanor, then I'd call the friend and tell him to turn himself in and take the stupid penalty, because if the cops are not bluffing and can take the truck and arrest you, then explain to him that you will not perjure yourself before a judge if the judge asks for a name, and that you'll hold him responsible for the cost of replacing the truck.
At that point, if he's still too thick to get it, explain in different words that his options are: 1) Turn himself in and take the penalty with some possibility of lenience for turning himself in, or 2) Get fingered because you won't perjure yourself, such that he still has to take the penalty for failure to stop, but now without leniency, *plus* he's also going to be on the hook for the price of a new truck... and see if he can do the arithmetic.
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It sounds like your friend probably didn't really do anything on a felony level... seems more like a serious misdemeanor. Do you really think there's a chance the cops were bluffing?
If it was me, and if it was for a felony, I'd point him out. I'd hate doing it, but felonies aren't funny, and you don't need friends like that.
However, if it's a serious misdemeanor, then I'd call the friend and tell him to turn himself in and take the stupid penalty, because if the cops are not bluffing and can take the truck and arrest you, then explain to him that you will not perjure yourself before a judge if the judge asks for a name, and that you'll hold him responsible for the cost of replacing the truck.
At that point, if he's still too thick to get it, explain in different words that his options are: 1) Turn himself in and take the penalty with some possibility of lenience for turning himself in, or 2) Get fingered because you won't perjure yourself, such that he still has to take the penalty for failure to stop, but now without leniency, *plus* he's also going to be on the hook for the price of a new truck... and see if he can do the arithmetic.
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October 25, 2009 03:05 PM
If this person didn't pull over and led the police on a chase... it is considered a felony in some states.
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October 25, 2009 09:37 PM
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The police just might be bluffing. However, why not take the opportunity to turn your friend in anyway? You were nice enough to loan them something that's yours, that presumably is worth between a few and several thousand dollars, and they decided to be irresponsible and get into a police chase.
That's pretty disrespectful to you. If you don't turn him in, testify in court, and let everyone know how angry you are about this, think of how it will look to others. Unfortunately, if you don't do this, it's likely that people will feel they don't need to respect you and your possessions in the future.
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That's pretty disrespectful to you. If you don't turn him in, testify in court, and let everyone know how angry you are about this, think of how it will look to others. Unfortunately, if you don't do this, it's likely that people will feel they don't need to respect you and your possessions in the future.
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October 26, 2009 06:29 PM
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In some cases I would not turn in a friend to the cops, but in this particular case (after reading your description) Yes I would have! It was highly disrespectful for your friend to put you in a position like that. He is a person I would 1. NOT lend my truck to anymore; 2. NOT stick my neck out to save his (since he didn't think about that when he was running from the cops in YOUR TRUCK!); 3. Change his name in my cell phone to POS and never answer his calls again. That's insane! With a friend like that, you need no enemies.
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