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November 26, 2009 03:21 AM
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I'd take it! It's certainly overly lavish, but the woman must have her reasons for wanting you to have it. So enjoy it!
I look at it this way: There are very few times in life when the universe hands you such hearty gifts. Most of the time what lands on our laps is unfair garbage we don't deserve. So don't turn down the amazing gifts in life!
Just make sure you use the money in the spirit she intended:
If she wants to "help you out", put the money toward bills.
If she wants to see you have fun with the money, put it toward something your whole family will have fun with
If she wants to encourage you in a hobby or project, follow her advice.
If it's "for the future", then set it aside in a bank account.
And then send a SERIES of thank you cards, and maybe take her out to lunch.
I look at it this way: There are very few times in life when the universe hands you such hearty gifts. Most of the time what lands on our laps is unfair garbage we don't deserve. So don't turn down the amazing gifts in life!
Just make sure you use the money in the spirit she intended:
If she wants to "help you out", put the money toward bills.
If she wants to see you have fun with the money, put it toward something your whole family will have fun with
If she wants to encourage you in a hobby or project, follow her advice.
If it's "for the future", then set it aside in a bank account.
And then send a SERIES of thank you cards, and maybe take her out to lunch.
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November 21, 2009 03:30 AM
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I think she knew what she was doing, and wanted you to have it. Sometimes a person can write off gifts on their income tax so maybe that helps her out too byu sharing with you.
Thank her nicely. The only time I think I would balk would be if she has some mental condition that keeps her from knowing what she is doing.
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Thank her nicely. The only time I think I would balk would be if she has some mental condition that keeps her from knowing what she is doing.
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November 21, 2009 09:02 AM
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Generous but within 'limits' :P
As has been said, if I knew she wasn't thinking clearly all the time I would immediately let her know how much she had given me, and ask her if she intended to give me so much.
If she said yes, I meant you to have this money I would ask her if she wanted me to spent it on something in particular, did she think I was missing out on something, was there something she wanted to suggest but thought money might help. I've had old generous Aunts, I know they mean well and can have a set goal in mind hehehe even if you don't understand :) they know money can help.
I accept, but with reservations about whether it was intended and graciously if it was done with intent.
I love giving helpful gifts! I know if it was genuine how much it would mean to the giver and I would accept.
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As has been said, if I knew she wasn't thinking clearly all the time I would immediately let her know how much she had given me, and ask her if she intended to give me so much.
If she said yes, I meant you to have this money I would ask her if she wanted me to spent it on something in particular, did she think I was missing out on something, was there something she wanted to suggest but thought money might help. I've had old generous Aunts, I know they mean well and can have a set goal in mind hehehe even if you don't understand :) they know money can help.
I accept, but with reservations about whether it was intended and graciously if it was done with intent.
I love giving helpful gifts! I know if it was genuine how much it would mean to the giver and I would accept.
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November 21, 2009 06:22 PM
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I'd attempt to refuse, that's a great deal of money for a Christmas gift. However I had this problem with my dad always trying to give me large sums of money as gifts for bdays/xmas.. and thogh he stopped now he simply buys me gifts worth the same amount. In this economy I really could use the cash more than a really cool gift I would never buy myself. So admittedly, if the aunt persisted much I would likely cave and simply get her something really amazing next year.
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November 21, 2009 07:15 PM
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By any definition a $2000 cash gift is very generous. Obviously one would be tempted to accept such a generous gift. I would accept provided that:
1- That particular amount of money is within her economic range and does not negatively impact her financial situation.
2- She is not gifting me the money as a false pretense to influence me in some way or another.
3- It was her decision.
4- She were not the sort of person who continuously reminds you after the fact of what she gave you.
As long as those 4 points were met, I would take the gift.
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1- That particular amount of money is within her economic range and does not negatively impact her financial situation.
2- She is not gifting me the money as a false pretense to influence me in some way or another.
3- It was her decision.
4- She were not the sort of person who continuously reminds you after the fact of what she gave you.
As long as those 4 points were met, I would take the gift.
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November 22, 2009 03:20 AM
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I'd attempt to refuse at first, but if past gifts from family members are any indication (nowhere close to $2,000 though), it probably won't work. So I'll take it and put it toward graduate school, or savings, or something useful. If my aunt's taking that much out of her savings to give to me, I have an obligation not to waste it. And I'd thank her tremendously, of course.
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