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If you knew your friend had medical problems related to his liver, but you knew he was still consuming alcohol, would you say something?

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Marked as Best! October 19, 2009 02:06 AM
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Personally I would, but the way I interact with my friends may be different from how someone else (like you) might interact with their friends. I would say something like this:

"Listen you big knuckhead, you're already having problems with your liver, now you need to knock off this drinking stuff for a bit, ya hear me? I want you to be around for a bit yet. You know I don't have enough friends that I can afford to be losing any, kapish? Here now, set that down and let me buy you a coke. Bar keep? Two cokes for my friend and me please."

My friends know me and I know them, and we talk straight to each other. I can't imagine sitting by and watching one of them damage themselves without doing or saying something to stop them. Wouldn't you rather have a friend like me?

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unwirklich
unwirklich
October 19, 2009 12:45 AM
Of course. When it comes to addiction all you can do is express your feelings, concern and love for that person and hope it gets through.

Nobody can stop him but himself, so you have to convince him himself wants too.
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jkepler
jkepler
October 19, 2009 12:53 AM
To tell you the truth, I actually may not. It's almost like smoking if you have lung problems. I think it's highly likely that the person has already considered the repercussions of their actions and they will simply choose to do what they like regardless of what anyone says. I'd rather at least keep the friendship on kind terms and avoid causing tension or an outright fight.
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annelisle
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October 19, 2009 12:54 AM
I would certainly make him aware that drinking alcohol can only aggravate his condition. It would be up to him to if he will heed my advice or not. At least it would make me feel better that I did my part in making him realize or remind him in case he forgot that drinking will only make his medical condition worse.
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tboz
tboz
October 19, 2009 01:03 AM
No, people need to learn to leave each other alone, if your friend knows they have a liver condition, the doctor who told them the diagnosis has already told them all of the things they should not do, including alcohol. you need to be supportive of your friend in other ways. people don't continue to drink with a liver condition unless they have serious underlying issues that they are trying to block out or avoid. They need to seek professional help which will only happen when they are ready to. Be supportive and help your friend find out what their inner value is. They may not feel worthy of living or they may be using alcohol to supress pain or to forget bad memories or tons of other reasons. You don't need to nag them, people respond better to positive affirmations than they do negative. Give your friend some credit they already know they shouldn't drink. Just be a friend, be available if they ask for help but don't make people feel bad for what they already know.
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gno
gno
October 19, 2009 01:32 AM
What can you say? Really, what about that doesn't he already know?

It's the same with my smoker friends. I can roll my eyes when they light up. And sometimes I throw them a line about lung cancer and shortened life spans. And they just smile and inhale.

Trust me, your friend knows. Just be there in case he ever does want help, in case he ever does need your support to stop drinking. But you can't stop him, and you shouldn't drive him away as a friend over his own stupidity.
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electrosam
electrosam
October 19, 2009 04:18 AM
I'll just not let him to take alcohol.
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October 20, 2009 08:54 PM
I wouldn't say anything, of course I assume the "friend" in question has a doctor who has advised him about his health matters. In other words, the friend has someone in his life to handle those issues.

I try to enjoy my friends and if their habits are too much for me to bear, I exercise my freedom and find other ways to spend my time.

I see no reason to get locked into squabbles about personal habits when I am not occupying the body being affected.
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ajayabhi
ajayabhi
October 22, 2009 06:12 PM
alcohol should be avoided as it may cause acute pancreatis,cirrnosis,heart problem importancy & cause decrease in conk of various minerals & vitamin present in body so tacking these point in mind person should try to get rid of this by meditation strong will power yoga e.t.c.
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