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You and your friend's spouse share a rare blood type. When your friend's spouse needs an urgent bone marrow transplant, for which you are a
donor match, your friend begs you to donate bone marrow despite your immense fear of needles and the fact that no anesthetic will be available during the extraction process. Do you agree to have the procedure done? Should your friend be mad at you if you decide to decline the request?
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December 09, 2009 11:23 PM
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I am terrified of needles. I always have been. I also am O- which only 7% of people have. I can give blood and marrow to almost anyone, but can only recieve it from a few people. I have often wondered if I needed a marrow transplant what would happen because of the rarity of my blood type.
I would be terrified, but I would not hesitate to dontate to my friends spouse because I would know that God had put me in that situation for a reason. I would also hope that if I needed something like that, that there would be someone good enough to give to me.
The friend should not be mad if you delclined the request, however, as everyone has their own beliefs and tolerances. It is your free will to give or not to give, and no one can ever judge you for protecting your body in a situation like that.
I would be terrified, but I would not hesitate to dontate to my friends spouse because I would know that God had put me in that situation for a reason. I would also hope that if I needed something like that, that there would be someone good enough to give to me.
The friend should not be mad if you delclined the request, however, as everyone has their own beliefs and tolerances. It is your free will to give or not to give, and no one can ever judge you for protecting your body in a situation like that.
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December 09, 2009 10:39 PM
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My decision would depend on the effect of the transplant on my own health. What are the consequences and risks for me. If my life would just go on as normal, like nothing changed, I would be more prone to consider doing it regardless of the pain. Especially since having a family to care for I want to make sure I am healthy and strong for them too.
Whether you say yes or no, I don't think your friend should get mad. I'd make sure I'd have valid arguments ready if I said no.
It also depends how close you are to your friend. If it was a sister or brother I would do it in a heartbeat. Good close friends that are like family are hard to come by. If your friend is like family to you and if it's really life threatening I'd consider it.
This sounds like something I would have to talk about with my direct family and talking to a doctor about the risks involved might help me make up my mind.
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Whether you say yes or no, I don't think your friend should get mad. I'd make sure I'd have valid arguments ready if I said no.
It also depends how close you are to your friend. If it was a sister or brother I would do it in a heartbeat. Good close friends that are like family are hard to come by. If your friend is like family to you and if it's really life threatening I'd consider it.
This sounds like something I would have to talk about with my direct family and talking to a doctor about the risks involved might help me make up my mind.
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December 10, 2009 03:37 AM
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If my friend will ask me to donate a bone marrow for her husband, even if I have extreme fear of needles plus no anesthetic, I will agree to be a donor. I know that she will not ask me if she is not desperate and I will do the same if I were in her shoes. I will do this because this is an opportunity to help. I think if I am given a chance to help I will do so even if it is not a friend I know.
And to your other question if she will be mad in case I will not agree, I think she will not be mad if I will decline for a true friend understands. If unfortunately my fear of needles get the better of me, she knows me too well to understand that I decline not because I don't want to help her and her husband but because I cannot get over my fear of needles.
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And to your other question if she will be mad in case I will not agree, I think she will not be mad if I will decline for a true friend understands. If unfortunately my fear of needles get the better of me, she knows me too well to understand that I decline not because I don't want to help her and her husband but because I cannot get over my fear of needles.
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