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can i do a restraining order on an ex boyfriend for harrassment or threats if he is in a different state than i am?

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October 28, 2009 07:55 PM
It would be a no contact order....That way if he contacts you in anyway no matter where he is then he will get in trouble.
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October 29, 2009 01:17 AM
You can only get an order called a Protective Order, if you believe he is dangerous and is going to cause you problems and might be dangerous to you. You would need to have something to prove this to the courts to get the order, but if you have sufficient proof, then yes, you can get a protective order even if you are in different states.

The order is issued on you, against him, by the state in which YOU reside. It makes no difference even if he's in another country, if you have sufficient proof that you need the order.

Keep in mind, Protective Orders can really damage a person's reputation and can potentially give them a 'record', so they are not issued easily. You will need evidence and tangible, physical proof that you require this order.

JUST calling you and harassing you on the phone, internet, email, etc, is NOT enough to get an order like this. You must prove he is a danger to you in some way.

The law doesn't protect us from annoying people; only dangerous ones. It will cost you to file the order and you'll probably have to pay a court fee if you have to go to court. Often, Protective Orders really only enrage the other person, and they honestly don't do much to protect you anyway. It's a false sense of security.

If he's really causing serious problems, you're better of simply calling the cops. If he's in another state and all he is doing is harassing you via email, phone, etc, just change your number, change your email, lock down your profiles, and bear it out. It sucks, but that's the way it works in situations like this.
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My experience working for several years as a victim advocate and criminal justice advocate, and my paralegal certification.
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October 29, 2009 04:18 PM
yes cause it makes sure he doesnt come near you if he comes in the state
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