I would give up my life but not for his. We've discussed it many times and he feels that his life would not be worth living without me. He once told me there would be no worse cruelty than to commit suicide and leave him alone in this horrible place. We wish to die together. So unless our children were still too young to fend for themselves I would be sure we went out together in a blaze of glory.

Making the decision to save a life in a one-for-one exchange can be tough. To hand over my own life and save another, in this case one of my loved ones, requires immediate coming to peace with your existence and all unfinished business. Saying “here, take my life over his” when there is no imminent threat would be somewhat difficult to do. On the other hand, finding yourself in a potentially life threatening situation where time, declining health, and other factors are racing against you, it becomes easier to accept that only one of you can safely walk out alive. This said, when faced with imminent danger, I would do whatever was necessary to ensure my husband’s continued health and wellbeing and would attempt to help him escape from the dangerous situation safely. Provided he would let me fulfill my “rescue mission”, since I am sure he would insist on trying to save my life over his as well, I could only find my own peace by knowing I had done everything in my power to help save his life. As far as the reason for my selfless act, however, I would want to seriously contemplate whether my motivations were purely altruistic, or whether I acted on selfish thoughts and feelings (i.e. I would not want to/or feel I could not spend the rest of my life without him, as opposed to simply ensuring that he is doing well and will not get hurt in whatever occurrence we are facing). There can definitely be a fine line between these two issues.

is very easy to say yes now but when it came down to you i could never tell how i would react.

Giving up your life for the ones you love is no small task.

I don't think it is a question of WOULD but more or less COULD , if she was in trouble and I was absolutely certain that giving up my life could save hers. I could not hesitate a single instance. Falling on a sword would come swiftly and I would probably not have enough time to say goodbye.

Kind Regards,
@XDS