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October 29, 2009 02:19 AM
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Realistic, as in possible? Yes.
I do think monogamy is realistic, but I also think that it's possible to love more than one person at a time, and polyamory, when agreed upon by all in the situation, is a viable, wonderful relationship model.
I do think there are some people who are not able to be monogamous, no matter how hard they try. If that's the case, they should be honest about that, upfront with their potential partners, and not make commitments and promises they can't keep.
It's only cheating when you've made a promise to be faithful.
I do think monogamy is realistic, but I also think that it's possible to love more than one person at a time, and polyamory, when agreed upon by all in the situation, is a viable, wonderful relationship model.
I do think there are some people who are not able to be monogamous, no matter how hard they try. If that's the case, they should be honest about that, upfront with their potential partners, and not make commitments and promises they can't keep.
It's only cheating when you've made a promise to be faithful.
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October 28, 2009 08:05 PM
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Yes,
I feel that monogomy is the only way to go.
But I believe it is the people who are affraid of the full commitment that do not want it.I love having the comfort and stability in my relationship.I never understood polygamy and how or why people would want more than one mate.
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I feel that monogomy is the only way to go.
But I believe it is the people who are affraid of the full commitment that do not want it.I love having the comfort and stability in my relationship.I never understood polygamy and how or why people would want more than one mate.
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October 28, 2009 08:15 PM
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I'd say the ability for monogamy is a sign of intelligence. Few animals in the wild practice it. So, is it realistic for humans? Some of them have the brain capacity for it. XD
Personally I think you owe it to yourself to treat your body and heart with enough respect to only be with one person at a time.
I always was a hopelessly old fashion girl in the way of morals though.
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Personally I think you owe it to yourself to treat your body and heart with enough respect to only be with one person at a time.
I always was a hopelessly old fashion girl in the way of morals though.
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October 28, 2009 08:30 PM
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In their book "The Myth of Monogamy: Fidelity and Infidelity in Animals and People" David Barash and Judith Lipton tear to pieces the concept of monogamy. On the basis of much evidence coming from the human sciences as well as comparative zoology, they found that in animal species normally considered monogamous, trading partner is the rule, not the exception.
http://www.amazon.com/Myth-Monogamy-Fidelity-Infidelity-Animals/dp/0716740044
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The authors are husband and wife.
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http://www.amazon.com/Myth-Monogamy-Fidelity-Infidelity-Animals/dp/0716740044
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October 28, 2009 09:59 PM
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Monogamy's just as realistic as any other arrangement. That is to say, it all depends on the people involved. Some people are perfectly happy in a monogamous relationship. Others would feel more comfortable in a polyamorous relationship. Of course, there's the matter of what their partner or partners would think -- whenever you have a situation like this, there are bound to be wrinkles like that -- but you can't just dismiss an entire category of relationships as "unrealistic" when it's worked in the past for some.
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October 29, 2009 09:07 PM
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Nature makes us non-monogamous, society tries to make us monogamous. Monogamy is not even a tenet of all faiths. It is the Christian governments who have forced monogamy on certain religious elements, such as the Mormons and Muslims. They have literally made human nature illegal by branding it as immoral.
There are very few monogamous animals in nature, and man is not one of them. Without the constraints of societal laws and mores, man would not only not stick with one mate for their whole life, they would likely never settle down to one mate, or at the very best, have serial monogamous relationships.
A study of the competiton of sperm shows that humans are not naturally monogamous.
http://news.softpedia.com/news/Sperm-Competition-Shows-Humans-Are-Not-Naturally-Monogamous-54254.shtml
"These evidences show that our species is not a naturally monogamous one and that females are not passive sexual partners. "Although this review focused on male adaptations, sexual conflict between males and females produces a co-evolutionary arms race between the sexes, in which an advantage gained by one sex selects for counter-adaptations in the other sex."
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There are very few monogamous animals in nature, and man is not one of them. Without the constraints of societal laws and mores, man would not only not stick with one mate for their whole life, they would likely never settle down to one mate, or at the very best, have serial monogamous relationships.
A study of the competiton of sperm shows that humans are not naturally monogamous.
http://news.softpedia.com/news/Sperm-Competition-Shows-Humans-Are-Not-Naturally-Monogamous-54254.shtml
"These evidences show that our species is not a naturally monogamous one and that females are not passive sexual partners. "Although this review focused on male adaptations, sexual conflict between males and females produces a co-evolutionary arms race between the sexes, in which an advantage gained by one sex selects for counter-adaptations in the other sex."
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October 30, 2009 12:36 AM
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I think it is very realistic.
A monogamous relationship provides stability, security, a sense of belonging and respect for another human being besides yourself. There is a certain kind of joy in having one person in your life who you mean so much to. Monogamy allows people to feel special, unique and necessary.
It is a personal choice too. If both partners in a relationship are fine with the concept of an open relationship, that is up to them.But both have to agree.
Monogamy is also respect for the other person as well as respect for yourself. A stable relationship gives you a solid ground to run the rest of your life from. It is a rock to stand on. But that does not mean another life style would not be viable for another couple and feel just as secure. It doesn't always work but when it does it is something very special.
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A monogamous relationship provides stability, security, a sense of belonging and respect for another human being besides yourself. There is a certain kind of joy in having one person in your life who you mean so much to. Monogamy allows people to feel special, unique and necessary.
It is a personal choice too. If both partners in a relationship are fine with the concept of an open relationship, that is up to them.But both have to agree.
Monogamy is also respect for the other person as well as respect for yourself. A stable relationship gives you a solid ground to run the rest of your life from. It is a rock to stand on. But that does not mean another life style would not be viable for another couple and feel just as secure. It doesn't always work but when it does it is something very special.
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