There is no need to "Handle it". Live yourlife so that you don't have regrets, you don't hurt others i.e. don't break a family or be involved in somethig that could cause that, you know where it starts not where it ends...., plenty of fish are out there stick to those that are available to be fished.

Yes I have, and so have many other people. Unfortunately our "ooh, I kinda like him" button doesn't have a built in marraige sensor that over-rides our attraction to someone, so it has to be on a manual over-ride.

You just have to keep quiet about it and understand that over time, if you don't act on them, feelings of attraction will go away. Just treat them the same way you treat everyone else.

It is probably not the feeling of attraction that will cause you problems, unless it continues to happen with other married individuals, at which point you may need some counseling. It is more likely that the feeling will go away as you ignore them, and you will become interested in someone who is an appropriate recipient of your affections (a single person).

Leave the married folks alone. They have sworn a vow to be faithful to each other, to love and cherish only each other, and you don't want to make that any harder for them than it already is. If you tell this person you are attracted to them, and they cheat on their spouse with you, I can think of only bad things that might come of that. I can't think of anything good that might come from it, unless you count momentary physical pleasure, and really, that isn't enough to risk the bad things that might happen.

Whenever you feel attracted, just keep pushing that manual over-ride button. It's the big red one marked "NOT AVAILABLE".

sure I have but I did not act upon it. marriage means unavailable in my eyes. When people choose to go for a married person and succeeds in breaking up the family, its not only the adults that get hurt its the kids.

Sure, I've been attracted to someone who was married. Attraction isn't really a voluntary thing. What is voluntary, however, is whether or not you act on attraction. And a situation like this is a situation where, so to speak, you can appreciate the aesthetics, but that's all.

I haven't had any real opportunity to have an affair, so maybe this is something that's easy for me to say, but my parents' marriage was broken up by infidelity. Most of the time, there will be other people. And even if there aren't, it isn't an excuse to potentially ruin many people's lives.

Yes, I have been attracted to someone who is married. That person has been my best friend for over 5 years. I have not done anything about it and I am not going to. He is married; therefore, he is off limits to me.

Being attracted to someone is natural. Acting on the attraction toward a married person is wrong.

Yes, I have been attracted to someone who was married, and was attracted for different reasons. There were times when I was attracted to a married mans looks, and realized once getting to know them a bit more, that its all it was, I liked the way they were dressed, or their pretty eyes, and it was never more then that once I got to know them. I was also attracted to a married man for the way he treated his family, and that was hard, but something that was a good lesson for me to learn. I found myself enjoying the way he loved his family, and the way he took care of the, as well as the all around great person he was inside and out. We became friends, but in doing so I realized what a great person he was adn that attraction turned into a deep respectful friendship, realized that my own partner was who was ment for me, while enriching my relationships with others by enjoying these deep FRIENDSHIPS.