hi,
-need to say we must be at 10 a.m.
but you need in fact to be at 11am
ok
next
you can realize
is it for you important or for her
then you can act like you should how important is for her to be there,that's it.
cheers

I have the answer in two fun steps.

1) Let her know that it makes you uncomfortable when you are late.

2) Make bets, if you are early you give her a backrub, footrub or what ever. If late she has to do this for you. If she keeps loosing keep raising the stakes.

. . . but this only works if she wants to play along. Otherwise you are out of luck.

It is always tough to ask, "How can I change my spouse's behavior of 'X'?". If the behavior has been around long enough it will be a very tough one to break & nothing will work if the spouse does not wish to change.

When I was growing up every clock in our home was set to a different time, usually 10-30 minutes ahead. So when mom would have trouble getting out the door on time she'd see the clock and think she's later than she is, that would rush us. It would also work our basic math skills at the same time. :)
I don't think lying to her about the right time to be there is wise, so she'd definitely need to be aware of this change.

The second piece of advice I can give is to walk her through getting ready. If you know it takes her 30 minutes, make sure she is starting to get ready 30 minutes before when you need to leave. At different stages, subtlely verify that she's at the correct point.

If these plans don't work, I think you may be forever late. Which really isn't all that bad a thing. When I'm hosting a party, I don't like when guests show up directly on time, or early, as it doesn't allow me to pick up those last-minute items I may need.

Women have no problem knowing the time - in fact, they can be harpies when it comes to maintaining punctuality for some types of appointments, like school buses and work - but they have a terrible time being able to cut it of and say good-enough when dressing for special occasions that will be having lots of social-society context.

In neuropsychology, the prof noted that there's a little circuit in the front-left of the right-frontal lobe that is required for people to "draw a line", such that if it's damaged by a stroke, people can *never* do something like stop re-arranging furniture, or stop rearranging the organization of food on a plate when presentation matters, or choosing which necktie, etc., and it turns out that, although woman have their neurological advantage, like a larger corpus colossum connecting the left-hemisphere to the right, there are some advantages that men enjoy, one being that the circuit for being able to cut it off with a "good-enough" is larger in men than in women.

Consequently, sometimes, women count on guys to help them make some kinds of decision... especially when it's to do with appearance within a social-society context.

In my experience, it's been very normal for woman to ask me to go with her to a clothing store to help her pick out a new dress.

For neurological reasons it really is harder for her than it is for me to look at a rack of cloths which are all good, and just pick one. Therefore, I see it as a normal part of the whole business of couples helping each other with their respective natural attributes.

Yes, I'd rather be in the pub having beer with my buddies while she shops, but if she's asking for help with something like that, then I know it's not just to carry packages. It's because she really is asking for some help when it comes to the part of picking one when they're all good, so I do it, because that's part of the deal of her helping me out with the things that womans' brains do better.

And the natural corollary to that is when a woman is getting ready for a special occasion where she has to be dressed up. She's dragging on the clock because she's having that normal, natural female issue with cutting it off to say "good-enough" when they're all good options that is easier for guys, so what I do is...

... I help her get ready.

You'll notice that she didn't have any problem getting her hair fixed nor getting her makeup put on real nice... it's when it comes time to select the dress and the shoes and the hat and the bag to go with it...

So, I sit there in the room while she tries on combinations of dresses and shoes and bags and all that stuff, and when she hits on one that is in fact the best look for her hair and makeup style that day, I state the fact and say it right away... "That one!"

What I *never* do is just make a brash, rushed declaration just to hurry things along... she can tell. I be honest and tell her the truth...

And we're always out of there in time.

Dont be late get frisky. If you see shes not motivated then start kissing and hugging . Unless shes in the mood she will get up and get dressed. It allso helps to change the time to benefit you. If you need to leave in 3 hours give her enough time to get ready. You need to understand women they are a different breed. Women get ready for other women sometimes for the rooming eyes of men but mainly for other women. It also helps to give her some information on what kind of outfit to wear. Look at her outfits that are hanging in the closent did you notice how many more their are than yours? Maybe offer to buy her something to wear that usually motivates women. Is she busy doing things around the house. Help out by cleaning up after yourself. Distractions will cause someone to run late TV computer schoolwork. housework.or just plane tired. If it all fails go by yourself when she sees you are gone then maybe it will change her habbits.

Tell her the exact time your going out the door.

Remind her 1 and a half hour before the actual time time of leaving.

I'm sure the half hour is enough of whatever important things she's been doing or has to do like some housechores, whatever. If you find she has a lot to do, help her to finish what she wants to finish so she will not have a reason not to finish getting ready on time.

When 1 hour is left, remind her to get ready again and leave whatever she's doing, to continue it when she comes back home.

I think 1 hour is enough to turn around the room and get dressed ,do the makeup and the like. 15 minutes before the leaving time, remind her again, so she can hurry up if she's not done yet.

5 mins. before going out the door, remind her that time is up, your going out the door, and hope she's done.

I'm sure you will have the patience, to this ritual. Hope, this helps.

I think, it will be helpful if a woman knows a day/days before that she has an appointment at that time so she can allocate her time to do everything she has to do. I'm sure she will be ready on time, that is, if she wants to.

Leave without her a few times and should do the trick. Or just refuse to go anywhere if you can't be ontime.

Yiu cans tell her that you have something nice fo her so she will get ready really fast cauze she is going to wonder want he have for her.But you may not have anything for her then she will get very mad at you so you better get her something very nice so she can be happy.So think about it before you do
it.
And write me back bye yo friend Precious123