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Compromise, my dear, compromise and negotiate. Trade him something he wants for something you want. Compromising and negotiations are the keys is the key to relationships.

When I agree to go to the Purple Plum Tea Room with my wife and sit perched on tiny little chairs eating "sweets" that look like crumbs and sipping plum tea from tiny cups that resemble tea party kits for little girls, surrounded by blue haired old ladies, you better believe I'm going to NASCAR Next weekend.

What can you trade for sleeping in? How about he doesn't have to go with you next time you go to your mother's house? Then Mom will be mad, right. Guess what! you can solve that by compromise and negotiation!! Two well know but under-utilized gems for use in resolving conflict. Remember them and use them.

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If you need to sleep in to catch up on sleep and your boyfriend is unwilling to let that happen for the good of your health, I would seriously consider a new boyfriend. If you have told him you need to sleep in and he disregards your needs he has control issues that need to be addressed. If you need the sleep and he is not letting you tell him you are going to go spend the night at your folks, a friends, a motel so you have the ability to sleep in for the betterment of your health. Keep doing this until either he gets the point and leaves you undisturbed or until you replace him. I would really be more concerned about the boyfriend who does not care enough to do as you requested. A disregard for your feelings is not going to improve over time it will only get worse.

This is easy. Tell him you plan to sleep in.

If he interrupts your plans against your wishes, be FIRM with him and explain that you're not playing around. If he can't respect your sleeping wishes, then you can always sleep elsewhere.

This, of course, is assuming that he's not trying to get you up because you have responsibilities--like kids to watch, people to meet, class, a job, pre-made plans with your boyfriend. If you are being stubbornly neglectful, THEN I'm going to side with your boyfriend and kick you in the butt and remind you that part of being an adult is getting up at a reasonable time to take care of your responsibilities.

BUT...let's assume that you work hard all week, that you have no responsibilities on the weekend, and just want a little extra shuteye--until, let's say, 9am, 10am, even 11am.

If you KNOW you're supposed to be doing something, or if you're trying to sleep through the whole day, then it might pay to listen to your boyfriend's nudging.