You probably can't. If he isn't sensitive enough to your desire for cleanliness and he won't clean up after himself you have two choice, clean up after him or find a new boyfriend. It's unlikely you can change him, sorry.

He may never change but you could take it all and put it in his car. Unless he's messy there, too! :)

Sometimes expressing your feelings about something a mate does that you dont quite like can change things for the ebtter in most cases, but at the same time it can change things for the worst. You should sit down and tell your boyfriend how you really feel. If he loves you or is willing to stay with you then im sure hisi dea will change, and he will start cleaning up, if not then, there is plenty of fish in the sea, why deal with someone who cant respect your feelings.

Simple every time he seems in the mood for some kissing or more, get up and go clean the house. He will get the hint very quickly.

It sounds as if your boyfriend was raised in a household that either A.) Had one person who was responsible for cleaning up after everyone else..ie...a slave mother or B.) They weren't tidy.

If A.) is true he basically looks at you as carrying on his mother's good work. His mother never complained, why should you? At least that's his thought process.

If B.) is the case he's always been taught to be messy and whether your home is clean or filthy is likely something he doesn't care much about either way.

The fact of the matter is, unless you want to be his maid for the duration of your relationship he has to start doing his share. The question is, what approach is best?

I'm a firm believer in laying down your expectations. Make sure he knows what you expect and that you aren't going to tolerate this type of behavior. I'm not talking about nagging; that'll get you no where except being categorized as a nagging girlfriend. You obviously know it's not your responsibility to cater to this man. Explain it to him. Firmly address the situation in a manner something like the following:

"Look, we both live here and we both make messes. We can either pitch in and work together to clean it up or we can start picking up after ourselves as the messes occur. Either way, I refuse to live in a pig pen. You're a grown man and I am not your mother. It is not my responsibility to clean up after you. From now on, if you cook or eat from a plate, clean it. If you don't want to do that, get your meals from McDonald's and use disposable plates, cups and cutlery. Pick your laundry up and put it where it belongs or do it yourself. If I have to pick something up out of the floor, it goes into the trash. This way, I know I'll only have to pick it up once."

If he's tossing towels onto the floor, start a system. Divide the towels and washcloths between the two of you. He'll have his own personal set and you will have yours. Only the towels and washcloths in the hamper get washed. If he runs out of towels, suggest that he find his cleanest dirty towel to shower with and refuse to share yours. Toss in there, "It's a shame your towels weren't in the hamper, otherwise I'd have washed them when I washed mine." Of course, it's a good idea to keep up on your laundry so you aren't ever in need of one of his!

After that, enforce what you've said. When he runs out of socks because they've all ended up at the city dump or never has a clean towel he just might get that you're serious. Eventually, he just might get tired of having to buy new things or doing without and change his ways.

On the other hand, he may be so set in his ways that you will never get him to clean up after himself. If that's the situation you're faced with, this relationship simply won't work out unless you're willing to be a permanent maid.

Keep in mind that we all have our flaws. Evaluate your own before addressing his. Don't ask him to do things you, yourself are not willing to.

For example, if you don't ALWAYS take your dirty laundry to the hamper immediately, you can't realistically ask him to. If you don't ALWAYS clean dishes as soon as a meal is over, don't expect him to either.

Instead, ask him to make sure his laundry, wet towels, dishes, etc are taken care of each night before going to bed. Then make sure your messes are attended to in the same manner.

Remember; as stated before, when you address the situation and tell him that you're no longer going to clean up after him, stick to it!

Idle threats only make a situation worse and make what you say in the future something he'll pay little mind to.

If you're not going to stick to whatever you decide to tell him, say nothing at all.

Best of luck and I hope this helps!