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How can I uninvite a former co-worker to a trip that was planned months ago? No reservations have been made as yet.

I had made arrangement with another gal to take a post retirement trip to NYC in the spring and we invited a gal who was newly widowed. This widow could never find another travel mate to go with her(to split expenses)so she asks her sister, also newly widowed to come along. The glitch? Sister does not fly on planes and wants to drive to NYC? Both sisters say it is cheaper. I feel as if my friend and I are being manipulated by these two sisters as they are changing the original dynamics of the trip as we all agreed to flying. I also find out later that they are horribly cheap, wanting to cut corners when this trip was a special tribute and splurge for our retirement. There is no way in hell that me and the other gal are going to drive with these two and quite frankly, we don't want them to go at all. I need to make air and hotel reservations soon so how can I dump these two overbearing women? Any ideas or help is most appreciated.
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jillbeth
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Marked as Best! November 25, 2009 02:36 AM
I think those sisters have a lot of nerve! Tell them that flying was in the original plans, that you and your friend don't care to spend that much time on the road, and while they're welcome to drive to the destination, you and your friend will be flying and they can meet you there. Be up front with them about the level of luxury you'll require (don't call them cheap but let them know you're not going to be for this trip!). Maybe that will be enough to discourage them from going with you.

Generally, it's quite rude to uninvite somebody but under the circumstances I'd say you have just cause! The new widow is being quite rude by accepting your generous and thoughtful offer of sharing your trip with her and expecting you to change your plans for her sister's sake.

Sometimes when we try to do something nice for someone, it backfires on us! I hope you have a good time anyway.
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• Jillbeth: I am the woman who originally posed the question. Your answer was spot on! I wrote a very long detailed e-mail and spelled out exactly what our plans are(mine and my friends). I also told her that we had no intention of driving and there is no such thing as a 10hour trip to NY(from NC). I also told her that it would be up to her and her sister to make different arrangements as far a hotel reservations as it may be "cheaper" for them to find their own place. I also told them that their expcetations of the trip may be entirely different than our as this trip was designed as a "splurge"
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November 22, 2009 03:48 AM
Just say you have other engagement that come up suddenly. You dont want to spend your precious time with these people. Make arrangement without their notice and don't tell her about it.
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