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How do you spend the first Christmas after the death of a loved one?

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Marked as Best! December 02, 2009 09:54 PM
This will be our first year without my grandfather. Christmas was always at his house, and people are feeling a little lost without him and without the traditional plan. I won't assume things will feel the same at all. They won't. We will try to enjoy the company of our loved ones, and be thankful for all the years we had with him. Someone will try to make his fudge the way he used to. They will get it wrong, but no one will mind. Everyone will remember that he worked hard in the kitchen all those years, making mountains of the stuff, so everyone could take some home. We'll be sad. We'll try to accept that we're sad and also try to be happy. It will be hard. It will be confusing. It will feel different and strange. Knowing my family, someone will say something that makes someone else mad, and there will be awkward little moments. It won't be our best year. We'll make new traditions this year, and accept that you can't go back. If we're lucky, we won't try to fake it.
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December 03, 2009 03:24 PM
Wow, I can imagine how different Christmas must seem now for your family. Long-held tradtions are just hard to change. So sorry about your grandfather. He seemed to really be in the Christmas spirit each year, from what you wrote. Good to hear your family is trying to preserve that spirit to honor his memory.
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November 30, 2009 04:57 AM
Celebrating their memory with family and friends. Keep it positive... isn't that what they would want you to do?
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December 01, 2009 07:28 AM
When my mother passed away we started a new tradition in my family so that the day would last longer and missing her would seem less. So we started a hot chocolate one unopened gift time in the evening so that we all had something to look forward to. We also remembered past Christmases with her.
We made it a part of the celebration for the smaller children that had just 1 month earlier lost their grandmother.
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December 02, 2009 11:25 PM
My first newborn grand daughter died just before Thanksgiving a few years ago, so both holidays were bad. I got a special ornament for her and it is the first thing that gets hung on my tree yearly. As I hang it I think of her, and always shed a few tears. Her ornament is a tiny little angel with her name on it, and it is always in a place where it can be seen by all who look.
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dtvrivera
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December 03, 2009 03:22 PM
Oh my gosh, how sad. Using the little angel is the sweetest idea.
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