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I find out that a good friend's father has just died from Cancer, they haven't said anything about this to me. Do I mention this to them?
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September 30, 2009 07:38 PM
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I'd offer my condolences... along with offers to help if theres anything I can do etc....
When something like this happens to you, the last thing you're concerned with is telling everyone whats happened. Yes you try and tell the people who it is 'important' but theres an understanding that everyone will find out eventually. You're too busy grieving to take a register of who has/hasn't been told.
When something like this happens to you, the last thing you're concerned with is telling everyone whats happened. Yes you try and tell the people who it is 'important' but theres an understanding that everyone will find out eventually. You're too busy grieving to take a register of who has/hasn't been told.
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September 30, 2009 07:14 PM
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You could offer your condolences and any help they may need.
When my mother passed away, I didn't make it a point to spread the word to my friends, as it was the last thing I was concerned about. My friends found out through word of mouth and her obituary, just not from me directly. It was nice to see people (even if I barely spoke to them) come to me and offer comfort and support through a difficult time.
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When my mother passed away, I didn't make it a point to spread the word to my friends, as it was the last thing I was concerned about. My friends found out through word of mouth and her obituary, just not from me directly. It was nice to see people (even if I barely spoke to them) come to me and offer comfort and support through a difficult time.
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October 01, 2009 06:26 AM
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Actually I could not understand what you are exactly trying to say through the word "this to them". I take this question in two ways.
1. You are going to mention the friend why he/she did not inform you.
2. You are going to give your condolences, though she did not inform you
If it is the first case, it would be better if you leave the matter aside for a while because, he/she may already be under a mental stress about her loss. You would not want to bother a good friend in her bad times. She may have not mentioned you about the incident for various situations you would not want to know. So it is better to step aside and wait for a while. After some time, when things are back to normal, if you guys meet somewhere for a tea or coffee, you can ask her about this.
If it is the second case, it would be wise to give your sympathies to he/she as soon as possible, because she may have forgotten because of the shock of her loss or she may have undergone some serious problems after he father's death. So it is better if you can contact her, offer your condolences and if you can visit her a visit and give her a supporting hand. That way it would be like you taking part in her sorrows, and she would really appreciate it.
Sorry. My English is bad. I could not extract the actual meaning out of your question.
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1. You are going to mention the friend why he/she did not inform you.
2. You are going to give your condolences, though she did not inform you
If it is the first case, it would be better if you leave the matter aside for a while because, he/she may already be under a mental stress about her loss. You would not want to bother a good friend in her bad times. She may have not mentioned you about the incident for various situations you would not want to know. So it is better to step aside and wait for a while. After some time, when things are back to normal, if you guys meet somewhere for a tea or coffee, you can ask her about this.
If it is the second case, it would be wise to give your sympathies to he/she as soon as possible, because she may have forgotten because of the shock of her loss or she may have undergone some serious problems after he father's death. So it is better if you can contact her, offer your condolences and if you can visit her a visit and give her a supporting hand. That way it would be like you taking part in her sorrows, and she would really appreciate it.
Sorry. My English is bad. I could not extract the actual meaning out of your question.
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