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I heard through the grapevine that a good friend is getting divorced, but she hasn't mentioned it to me.
Should I ask her about it, or wait until she brings it up?
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September 26, 2009 02:53 AM
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Hmmm... There are two things that I would consider:
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People value relationships with different people for different reasons. Are you "fun loving" friends with this person? Maybe she (or he) simply needs you to be that person and doesn't want to bring the pain and emotion into your relationship.
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On the flip side of the coin, your friend may feel like the "right time" hasn't occurred. It will be uncomfortable when your friend finds out (or figures out) that you know. So, it might be better to casually say something like "Hey, I hear you're having a few relationship problems, if you need to talk, you know I'm here... but I understand that you just might not want to talk about it and that's ok too."
It's always tough when people split up. It is of course tough on the individuals who are divorcing, but it's tough on everyone connected to them as well. Best of luck with this tricky situation.
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People value relationships with different people for different reasons. Are you "fun loving" friends with this person? Maybe she (or he) simply needs you to be that person and doesn't want to bring the pain and emotion into your relationship.
2)
On the flip side of the coin, your friend may feel like the "right time" hasn't occurred. It will be uncomfortable when your friend finds out (or figures out) that you know. So, it might be better to casually say something like "Hey, I hear you're having a few relationship problems, if you need to talk, you know I'm here... but I understand that you just might not want to talk about it and that's ok too."
It's always tough when people split up. It is of course tough on the individuals who are divorcing, but it's tough on everyone connected to them as well. Best of luck with this tricky situation.
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September 25, 2009 07:24 PM
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You should wait until she brings it up. Divorce (while a happy event for some), is still a serious subject which you should never bring up with a person before they tell you about it. If you bring it up before she does, there's a chance that she might feel as if her personal information is being carelessly spread around.
Good luck, and I wish your friend the best as well. I hope that I was of some assistance!
Warm Regards,
- Beau Brown.
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Good luck, and I wish your friend the best as well. I hope that I was of some assistance!
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- Beau Brown.
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September 25, 2009 07:25 PM
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No, you should not bring it up. What if it isn't true or she doesn't want people to know about it. Divorce is a private matter. I don't even want people to know if I'm dating someone half the time and didn't want do discuss my divorce with anyone either.
Besides the fact that sometimes couples decide to not go through with the divorce and work things out.
Eventually she'll tell you, just wait and be there for her when/if she does.
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Besides the fact that sometimes couples decide to not go through with the divorce and work things out.
Eventually she'll tell you, just wait and be there for her when/if she does.
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September 25, 2009 07:59 PM
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Don't bring it up. If she wants to talk about it then she'll tell you... and then you can provide a good ear to listen and maybe a shoulder to cry on.
The other thing is, that whilst the grapevine is a way of getting the information quickly, its not always reliable. Some or all of the facts may be completely wrong and then all you likely to put your foot in it if you tell her what you've heard
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The other thing is, that whilst the grapevine is a way of getting the information quickly, its not always reliable. Some or all of the facts may be completely wrong and then all you likely to put your foot in it if you tell her what you've heard
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September 26, 2009 06:25 PM
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I would ask her about it, if she's as good a friend as you say. That way if it's not true you will get it out in the open and get rid of it instead of it festering between you as a "maybe". If it is true she might be happy to talk about it, and might even be wanting to, but may be too embarassed to broach the subject. Either way, it will probably strengthen your friendship.
The site below will give some tips on how to handle the situation.
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