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I know for a fact that my close friend's husband is having an affair with another one of our friends. Should I tell her?

We spend a lot of time with this couple...we've gone on many joint vacations together and we have dinner at their house several times a month. I know he's cheating, but I don't think he knows I know. I am incredibly uncomfortable around this couple now, knowing what I know. I almost wish I didn't know a thing! Part of me wants to tell her immediately - another part says I should confront HIM and force it out in the open that way. What should I do? Help!
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bunny
bunny
August 18, 2009 04:55 PM
I don't think I would tell her It always seems to come back and bite the person who told in the butt. Drop her hints, or start asking questions about things. Let her come to the realization on her own.

Now, telling him might be a good option. He's more apt to come clean if he thinks you'll tell the wife before you do. Give him a time limit to tell her; days, not weeks.

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angie
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August 24, 2009 11:23 PM
If the roles were reversed, would you want to know? If yes, then think of how you would feel if she held that information from you.

I have to agree with Bunny about confronting him first. If he fails to tell her within a reasonable amount of time, then by all means tell her.
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