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I know many do so, but would you change religion just to marry a particular person, or would you be willing to let the person go instead?
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October 20, 2009 06:32 PM
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Personally I would not change my religion to marry someone, I think that if the person you are thinking of marrying refuses to accept your religion then they are the wrong person for you. There will be fights down the road, and possible resentment that you changed something that was a part of you.
However, there are cases where I think it's ok. For example, if religion is not a part of your life and you have no strong opinions one way or the other than I would change religions for the person that you love and are going to marry. You just have to make sure that you feel comfortable in this religion and feel comfortable raising your future possible children in this religion. Changing religions is never something to be taken lightly, even if you aren't religious to begin with.
However, there are cases where I think it's ok. For example, if religion is not a part of your life and you have no strong opinions one way or the other than I would change religions for the person that you love and are going to marry. You just have to make sure that you feel comfortable in this religion and feel comfortable raising your future possible children in this religion. Changing religions is never something to be taken lightly, even if you aren't religious to begin with.
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October 20, 2009 06:19 PM
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That depends on how I am led. I feel like changing your religion should always be a spiritual journey. If you are led to change, it is supposed to happen whether you are in a relationship or not. You should never convert if you at all feel like it would be hypocricy or if you don't mean it.
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October 20, 2009 10:56 PM
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Of course!. After all, I can change my religion back once married :)
Or if the idea is changing religion to live with (and I love) her, well, first I would suggest she change her religion, if not, then both change to a third religion, and if neither, then I would change mine to whatever she says me!
More seriously; If I weren't game to change my religion to marry her, that means I'm not, truly, in love.
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Or if the idea is changing religion to live with (and I love) her, well, first I would suggest she change her religion, if not, then both change to a third religion, and if neither, then I would change mine to whatever she says me!
More seriously; If I weren't game to change my religion to marry her, that means I'm not, truly, in love.
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October 21, 2009 02:47 PM
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no i wont ask him to change his religion because am the person who never force anyone at any cost..its really difficult for anyone to accept and later follow the different religion....so my personal suggestion is either you love the person of same religion or try to accept their religion without converting....i hate the people who ask their beloved to change their religion..
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October 21, 2009 04:18 PM
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I was engaged to a man who was a Protestant Christian. I had been agnostic for years, and that didn't seem to bother him. When I decided to become a Pantheist, he said I could "come back to God", or he would leave me. I asked him why it didn't bother him when I was agnostic, and he said it was because he thought he could change my mind once we were married and I saw "great a life in Christ" was. He said he could never marry a "heathen", so it was either come back to God, or lose him.
I let him go. I feel that if someone is going to judge you on religious grounds, when they know that you are a good person, and someone that they would otherwise marry, then that is not the person for you.
It's often said that you can change someone's habits, but you can't change their beliefs. Beliefs are too ingrained in a person's psyche. I feel that someone who tries to force you to change your beliefs to be with them has serious control issues, and you can look forward to more problems in the future with all aspects of your life.
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I let him go. I feel that if someone is going to judge you on religious grounds, when they know that you are a good person, and someone that they would otherwise marry, then that is not the person for you.
It's often said that you can change someone's habits, but you can't change their beliefs. Beliefs are too ingrained in a person's psyche. I feel that someone who tries to force you to change your beliefs to be with them has serious control issues, and you can look forward to more problems in the future with all aspects of your life.
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October 21, 2009 05:06 PM
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I would let the person go as I don't want to stick to a religion I don't believe in. I'm catholic, not by faith but by fact - I got the baptism and had the first communion - but I surely wouldn't stick to something I don't believe, just because of love.
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October 22, 2009 01:23 PM
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No, There is a difference between religion and spirituality, and I don't adhere to any religion although I profess Christianity. I have some issues with organized religion and would not change my attitudes or behavior for any human person.
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