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If the person you are in love with has fallen out of love with you, should you let them go?

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October 19, 2009 10:04 AM
Yes, hard as it may seem the best thing is to let go. But before you do that you should be absolutely certain that you did the best you can to save the relationship. That you are not the reason why that person fall out of love. We cannot dictate others to love us forever but we can do something to make others love us. If you have done everything but he still falls out of love, then it is time to let go.

For in letting that person go, you have kept him for always. Trying to hold on to someone who is not in love with you anymore is like catching a bird and keeping it in a cage. That would be a selfish love and it is not a healthy love. Letting go would be best for both of you.
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October 19, 2009 10:35 AM
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October 19, 2009 06:25 PM
Love requires mutual reciprocation to be nurtured, to grow to expand. Ideally, children are the continuation of such reciprocated love.

When the person you love no longer loves you there is no longer a source for sustainability. Both will become miserable. For your sake, as well as for the other person, one should always let a person go that no longer loves you.
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October 20, 2009 10:02 AM
Well, there's no point in hanging on to a relationship that is one-sided. If they want to go, let them go. If it has been a fairly short-term relationship, move on. There are lots of fish in the sea. But I'd like to add my own feelings about falling in and out of love: It comes and goes, and sometimes when it goes, it comes back again.

I've been married for 21 years, and if I left and came back every time I fell out of love with my husband (and back in again) I probably would have only been here about half the time! Sometimes we begin to take our partner for granted, or let the daily stresses of life get in the way of loving our partners. We may be disillusioned to find out they're not the person we thought they were. We've all got our faults, and sometimes we have to decided whether or not we can live with our partner's faults.

Sometimes we have to lose what we have to realize it really was what we wanted after all! And while that person is gone, we can reconsider the relationship--were we really in love, or the idea of being in love? A break-up is seldom the fault of only one person. Was there something we did (however unintentionally) that drove this person away? Are we willing to learn from our own mistakes?

So my advice is to let the person go, and give both of you some time to think about whether the relationship can or should be resumed, and avoid any new romantic entanglements for a while. Jumping into a new relationship can just throw a monkey wrench into the works if the person who "fell out of love" finds out that they really do love you and wants to try again!
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