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If you had a friend from another country who was about to be deported would you marry them to help them stay in the U.S.?

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Marked as Best! November 28, 2009 08:45 AM
I am from Europe myself and moved to the US some years ago after marrying my US husband. I surely can understand how someone would get desperate to stay in the country and ask their friend to marry them. The immigration system was not easy for me and after 9/11 it got even more difficult to get a green card. Luckily we had a good lawyer and got my green card and all. The whole process is very intimidating and took us 2 years. Being married to a US citizen doesn't guarantee that you won't be deported. If they find out that the marriage is fake, you will still be deported and cannot re-enter the country for some years. Trust me, they ask you numerous personal questions about your relationship and spouse to find out if the marriage is real.

I would not marry my friend for the wrong reasons. Not even to prevent deportation. Knowing what they put you through to get legal status, it would be very nerve wrecking for you knowing that the marriage is fake. (My marriage was not fake and we were still nervous wrecks.) They check, double and triple check. There are other ways to prevent deportation. My best advice is to consult with an immigration lawyer and don't break the law. That's what we did and we never looked back.

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November 27, 2009 06:12 PM
It depends on what they want. If they ask this favor of me, i would definitely help them out. I love my friends.
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November 27, 2009 06:57 PM
There is a law against this. You should only marry them if you would marry them if they were not going to be deported. Watch "The Proposal" with Sandra Bullock that was released recently. It is all about this same type situation.
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November 27, 2009 08:07 PM
i just broke up with a man who married an American woman to gain entrance to this country.. Its sad that she fell for it and no I would not do it myself.
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November 27, 2009 09:32 PM
This choice happened to me. I was offered money, but my conscience was clear, after trying to convince myself of what an altruistic "deed," in addition to the loot, it would be I decided not to do it! I never looked back either! sincerely.
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