Oh yes, so I could smash both their heads in with a blunt object just heavy enough to require lots of swings.

In all seriousness.

If my husband wanted to leave me I would expect him to behave in the same honorable manner I would. Pull up his big boy pants and say it was over before he went sleeping around. This is a well known clause in our marriage. My husband knows if he's done, say so and so be it, but if he brings dishonor on our family I will physically wound him. I believe I told him that on our 3rd date or so, "If you're as serious as you say you are and I fall in love with you, if you cheat on me they will never find the body." He told me, "likewise".

He does not doubt me. lol

The girl would likely simply get caught in my rage. I have well known and explosive temper. Serves her right.

I don't think I would want to catch them in the act. I think that would just be humiliating (for me; I wouldn't care about them), and it would create a permanent image in my mind. I would want other proof, such as receipts from their dates or something, so that I could take him to court. At this point, we live together and share finances, and in my state, that makes me his common law wife. I would be entitled to sue for alimony if he cheated on me and dissolved our relationship. I might even ask a friend to catch him in the act, as proof, but I personally wouldn't want to see it.

My reaction to cheating would be an automatic end to the relationship. I don't think there is any room for forgiveness in that situation, because I would never be able to see him the same way again. I would immediately kick him out and remove any evidence of his existence from my living space. Then, like I said, I would probably sue for alimony. I've helped my boyfriend get his new career off the ground, so I would feel entitled to some of his wages. Plus, admittedly, I'm a vengeful person, and I would want to make him suffer for what he had done.

Like unwirklich, I expect adults to act like adults. There is nothing but disgrace in cheating.

No, I wouldn't want to see any of it nor would I want to know the girl or anything about her. It's painful enough to find out someone you cheated did such a thing to you, it would seem torturous for any further details.

Of course I agree I'd want to smash someone's head in but even after that, it would be excruciatingly painful to see who it was that was "better" or worth cheating on me for. Things that you see are in your head forever, you can't erase them or wish them away. You can't go back and not see it. I'd rather just move on with the idea that the other woman was a nasty ogre...or whatever else I can imagine on my own.

When it clicked it my head that my boyfriend at the time was cheating...you bet I tried to catch him...I would have friends pick me up, do a drive by...call him randomly to see if I could hear her voice...watch his Facebook...I got lucky one day and finally caught him. I'm the type to go with my gut...and I am glad I did.

I have been down that road. Yes I would prove it to myself first. Then handle it. Years back, i was with this guy and a friend of mine came to me upset that i didn't tell her that my boyfriend and I broke up. Hell, I didn't even know. Apparently a friend of hers was telling her about her new boyfriend and it was my boyfriend.

1st i caught them. I found them together but they didn't know I knew. I decided that the girl had no idea about me so i opted to leave her alone. Now my boyfriend was not so lucky.

I went home and took all of his clothes and put them in the washer and washed them on the hottest setting adding 1 special ingredient-a large piece of pink fiberglass. When they were done, i put them in the dryer with another piece of fiberglass. (yup-double shot) Then I put them up and prepared to act stupid.

when he got home, i did not confront him, i just waited for what was coming next.
the next morning he got up, got dressed for work and left. When he got home, i could see that he was seriously distressed and very uncomfortable. I asked him if he was ok, but i knew he wasn't. I looked in on him later. he had a whole body rash. I didn't say anything. It went on for a few days. I am sure that his new hoochie gave him some new undiscovered STD. he was covered. About 2 days later, I told him that he may want to ask his new girlfriend what she was carrying around with her. That is how he found out that I knew he was a DOG. But I never told him that I was the reason that he was covered head to toe in the worst skin condition he would ever experience.

This happened in my early 20's and is not the way I would handle this situation now. When my ex-husband cheated on me, I called his little pop tart on the phone and told her she was my best friend and she better have a good job because her new boyfriend was going to give all his money to his future ex-wife... me!!