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I'm in a great relationship with a guy but his kids don't like me. What can I do?

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ematlosz
ematlosz
September 22, 2009 08:07 PM
Create time to hang out with his kids, while doing activities that focus on the kids. Take them to do something that they're interested in. Maybe find an opportunity to talk to them and see how they really feel and why they feel that way.
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farconvill...
September 23, 2009 02:19 AM
If you really love this guy, you have to love the kids, too. I remember my mother saying when I got married, "Whoever my son chose to love, I will love, too." That applies to people, too. Your guy loves his kids, so should you. Even when they are mean to you, you must be the forgiving one. Remember, we're dealing with kids. Try putting yourself in their shoes. They might feel threatened, betrayed, angry or even unsure or disloyal. Give them time. Kids are not dumb you know. Get to know them better. Don't try to be the next mother, try to be their friend instead. Peace!
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rasath1
rasath1
September 24, 2009 02:30 PM
if i were you i would determine if this relationship has marriage as an ultimate goal and if so, you should get to know his kids. they are always very protective of biological parents if they know them and without their acceptance, your relationship will be rocky. and if push comes to shove, believe me, a good parent will always choose his/her kids over a new love.

best of luck and be sincere with the kids...they see through everything
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