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Is it ever appropriate to keep the ring when an engagement is broken?
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November 02, 2009 01:32 AM
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If I shared in the expense of the ring I would think it would be okay to keep it. I do think a woman should ask if the man wants the engagement ring back. If he does, then give it back and move on.
I personally can't think of any reason I'd want to keep an engagement ring from a relationship that didn't work. Unless, as stated by prior posters, the ring belonged to my family. If I paid for it I would feel entitled to it, but since expenses like that are shared quite often, I would feel that the guy should be equally compensated as well or the value split.
Things like this usually turn into a big deal out of hurt and spite. Not because anyone really cares about the actual ring.
I personally can't think of any reason I'd want to keep an engagement ring from a relationship that didn't work. Unless, as stated by prior posters, the ring belonged to my family. If I paid for it I would feel entitled to it, but since expenses like that are shared quite often, I would feel that the guy should be equally compensated as well or the value split.
Things like this usually turn into a big deal out of hurt and spite. Not because anyone really cares about the actual ring.
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November 01, 2009 04:44 AM
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I think if the man does not ask for it back, then keeping it is fine. I have also heard of situations where the man used a ring that was an heirloom from the woman's family. In this case, the ring should certainly be kept by the woman.
I suppose an argument could also be made that if the man is the one who chooses to end the engagement, then the woman should be able to keep the ring since the engagement ended through no fault of her own.
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I suppose an argument could also be made that if the man is the one who chooses to end the engagement, then the woman should be able to keep the ring since the engagement ended through no fault of her own.
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November 01, 2009 05:08 AM
It's tacky but it depends on the girl. Why would she want a token of affection from someone she doesn't want to be with?
For cash? Tacky. I tried to give my wedding ring to my ex-wife in case she needed the money but she didn't want it either.
Heirlooms should be returned to the family it came from.
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For cash? Tacky. I tried to give my wedding ring to my ex-wife in case she needed the money but she didn't want it either.
Heirlooms should be returned to the family it came from.
November 01, 2009 09:37 AM
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There are actually differing state laws on the subject. In some states it depend on who broke up. In those states the ring is seen as agreement to a mutual promise to marry, goods received in return for a promise to marry. If the woman breaks up, back goes the ring. If the guy breaks up, she gets to keep it. If you ask me, you better get it in writing who is initiating the break up if you want your ring back (or if you want to keep it).
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November 02, 2009 05:27 AM
This is my understanding, too. The ring is goods received in return for a promise to marry. Whoever gets dumped keeps it.
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November 02, 2009 02:34 AM
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Traditionally, the woman gets to keep the ring if the man breaks it off, but must give it back if she breaks it off. I realize that times have changed, but the ring is a gift, and it's extremely tacky to take back a gift. Now, if the guy had a legitimate reason, like he caught her cheating, then he might have a reason to expect his ring back because she broke her part of the bargain first.
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November 02, 2009 07:07 AM
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I think it should be given back. Any one, may be man or woman should not wait for other to come and ask for it. As the engagement is already broken, the ring only have cash value, so keeping the ring might be like having a debt. And let us think that if the other partner wants the ring back shall he come to you and ask you?
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November 02, 2009 02:23 PM
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Engagement etiquette.
If the girl breaks it off she must return the ring.
http://marriage.about.com/od/rings/a/ringreturn.htm
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If the girl breaks it off she must return the ring.
http://marriage.about.com/od/rings/a/ringreturn.htm
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