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September 23, 2009 08:38 PM
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Hello there,
Yes - it's perfectly fine to date a man that is 10 years older than you. There is no real limit, but I would advise you that dating men over 15 tends to be "too" old.
Remember, if you love him and loves you, then the relationship should continue to blossom. However, like @quesera says, dating men that are excessively older than you may have a impact for your future - for example - would it have a impact if you were to have children?
It is important to discuss this with your partner. If you feel concerned that his age may be a problem in the relationship then talking to him may help grow confidence in yourself that age is not a important matter and that there is a strong connection between you and him.
If you feel worried about people's perception of you having a "very old" boyfriend - then don't be. A 10 year age gap, is frequently common and you sometimes see gaps of 15-20 years. People are less likely to look at you and him and consider he is much older than you - but are more likely to look at the relationship between you two.
Hope this is helpful!
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Yes - it's perfectly fine to date a man that is 10 years older than you. There is no real limit, but I would advise you that dating men over 15 tends to be "too" old.
Remember, if you love him and loves you, then the relationship should continue to blossom. However, like @quesera says, dating men that are excessively older than you may have a impact for your future - for example - would it have a impact if you were to have children?
It is important to discuss this with your partner. If you feel concerned that his age may be a problem in the relationship then talking to him may help grow confidence in yourself that age is not a important matter and that there is a strong connection between you and him.
If you feel worried about people's perception of you having a "very old" boyfriend - then don't be. A 10 year age gap, is frequently common and you sometimes see gaps of 15-20 years. People are less likely to look at you and him and consider he is much older than you - but are more likely to look at the relationship between you two.
Hope this is helpful!
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September 23, 2009 07:51 PM
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I don't see any reason why not, as long as you are an adult.
I have dated two men that were significantly older than I am. One was 11 years older than me, and the other was 14 years older than me. I don't think 10 years is too much of a difference, as long as you have compatible likes and dislikes and get along with each other.
Love is stronger than age. Age is just a number.
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I have dated two men that were significantly older than I am. One was 11 years older than me, and the other was 14 years older than me. I don't think 10 years is too much of a difference, as long as you have compatible likes and dislikes and get along with each other.
Love is stronger than age. Age is just a number.
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September 23, 2009 07:53 PM
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Yes it is, but of course it also depends on your own age.
Quite often, women have relations with men who are older than they are. A five year difference is very regular, ten years is not that bit a difference. Of course it depends on the 'mental age' of the partner. If either he or she is still very childish, the other person shouldn't be too 'mature'.
But there really is no fixed 'too large age difference'.
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Quite often, women have relations with men who are older than they are. A five year difference is very regular, ten years is not that bit a difference. Of course it depends on the 'mental age' of the partner. If either he or she is still very childish, the other person shouldn't be too 'mature'.
But there really is no fixed 'too large age difference'.
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September 23, 2009 07:53 PM
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As the saying goes, "all is fair in love and war" (partially true, I suppose). Provided you are both consenting adults, you should be able to do what you please. The age gap may raise some eyebrows, or garner some disapproval from family members, but you should follow your heart.
I would only suggest that you consider a few things: how will the age gap feel in 10 years, if you are still together? In 20 years? When you have children? When he is old enough to retire? If the age gap will still be fine at all of those times in life, I say go for it. If suddenly ten years seems like a lot when you're talking about, say, a 30 year old mom and a 40 year old dad, you may want to reconsider (unless you have no intention of staying with him).
My grandfather married a woman 30 years younger than he was, as his second wife. I'm sure she thought it was a good idea at the time, but she is now the nurse to an 83 year old husband. Your situation is obviously quite different, I'm just saying think ahead!
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I would only suggest that you consider a few things: how will the age gap feel in 10 years, if you are still together? In 20 years? When you have children? When he is old enough to retire? If the age gap will still be fine at all of those times in life, I say go for it. If suddenly ten years seems like a lot when you're talking about, say, a 30 year old mom and a 40 year old dad, you may want to reconsider (unless you have no intention of staying with him).
My grandfather married a woman 30 years younger than he was, as his second wife. I'm sure she thought it was a good idea at the time, but she is now the nurse to an 83 year old husband. Your situation is obviously quite different, I'm just saying think ahead!
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September 23, 2009 08:04 PM
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Sure... theres no reason why you shouldn't.... unless you're under the age of 16...
BUT like dating anyone else you should probably make sure that your going into the date as equals, have things in common, enjoy each others company, shared interests.... both have the same number of heads etc...
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BUT like dating anyone else you should probably make sure that your going into the date as equals, have things in common, enjoy each others company, shared interests.... both have the same number of heads etc...
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September 23, 2009 08:18 PM
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Yes if you are both comfortable with it and you have enough in common with each other. It's a bit weird sometimes, I'll admit, but once you get used to it and you get past the age difference, it can be a wonderful experience! I am currently on the road to marrying my man and he is 12 years older than me. We learn a lot from each other, believe it or not! It's a fun relationship. I never thought I'd end up with someone this much older than me and I was very hesitant at first, simply because of his age, but I love hanging out with him and talking to him. We joke that the reason it works for us is because our maturity levels meet in the middle somehow! (I'm far more mature than my age and he is, well far less mature for his age! LOL!)
Furthermore, many of the women in my family have ended up with men older than them: my younger cousin is married to a man 11 years older and my aunt is married to someone 8 years older.
Take a chance if you really think you can have a meaningful and fun relationship!
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Furthermore, many of the women in my family have ended up with men older than them: my younger cousin is married to a man 11 years older and my aunt is married to someone 8 years older.
Take a chance if you really think you can have a meaningful and fun relationship!
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September 23, 2009 08:50 PM
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A woman dating a man ten years older then her (or even a man dating a women who is ten years older then he) is not too unreasonable. However, this would also depend on the age of the man and woman involved.
The older in age a person, the less of a gap in age difference. For instance:
The difference between a 10 year old and a 20 year old is much greater then the age difference between a 20 year old and a 30 year old. There is even a less difference in age between a 50 year old and a 60 year old.
While I would not personally recommend there to be a 15 year age difference in most circumstances, my great-grandparents (now both departed) were 15 years apart, however, they were married around the ages of 60 and 75.
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The older in age a person, the less of a gap in age difference. For instance:
The difference between a 10 year old and a 20 year old is much greater then the age difference between a 20 year old and a 30 year old. There is even a less difference in age between a 50 year old and a 60 year old.
While I would not personally recommend there to be a 15 year age difference in most circumstances, my great-grandparents (now both departed) were 15 years apart, however, they were married around the ages of 60 and 75.
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September 23, 2009 11:31 PM
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It makes no difference at all unless one of the parties can't get over the age difference. That is one variable in a relationship that can't be changed so either accept it and have a good time or don't and find someone that is an age you won't worry about.
10 years younger; 10 years older. I'd choose older every time, but that's just me.
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10 years younger; 10 years older. I'd choose older every time, but that's just me.
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