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My best friends wife is having an affair, should I tell him?
She has asked me not to tell her husband. She says that I would be ruining a good marriage. I don't feel it is a good marriage because she is having the affair. I don't want him to be played a fool, however, I don't want to break up their marriage either. What should I do?
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September 24, 2009 08:04 PM
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Your friend's wife is putting her husband in physical danger, by potentially exposing him to sexually transmitted diseases (for the life of me, I cannot figure out why people think condoms are some magical 100% guarantee). She is also lying, and she does not have the right to ask other people to lie with her. I think it would be fair to tell her that a) you are not comfortable with the fact that your friend is no longer in charge of his own health and b) your conscience will not allow you to lie to him. Give her a reasonable amount of time (say, 48 hours) to tell him, or let her know that you're sorry, but you will be doing it for her.
They clearly do not have a good marriage anyway, and a spouse has the right to know if they are being cheated on. They might benefit from some counseling, and your friend will certainly benefit from a caring ear.
They clearly do not have a good marriage anyway, and a spouse has the right to know if they are being cheated on. They might benefit from some counseling, and your friend will certainly benefit from a caring ear.
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September 24, 2009 12:03 PM
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Make her promise that she should end the extramarital adventure at once and you would say nothing to your friend. Wait a prudential term of time and if she has not fullfilled, you must communicate it to your friend.That is the correct way.
Excuse me for my bad english, i am hispanic speaker.
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Excuse me for my bad english, i am hispanic speaker.
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September 24, 2009 01:23 PM
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Yes you should tell him! I know it won't be easy for you to come out and tell him but he is going to find out soon or later and plus you don't want her to come around and tell him that you knew about the her affair. You are his bestfriend and you would want the best for him. I'm sure he will do the same for you. Be there for him and support him. Maybe they can talk things out work on their marriage. Its not easy but some couples needs to talk over things and see what the problem is and build their marriage stronger!
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