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My brother got his friend with benefits pregnant. He was going to end it, before this should he do?

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Marked as Best! October 05, 2009 11:13 PM
Ask her to get a paternity test after the child's born. Be prepared, if you dont like the woman anymore than take care of the kid, not the mom. Help the mom-to-be through her pregnancy. Maybe you'll even get a say about custody/adoption/abortion/etc. If it's not too late and neither of you want a child, consider abortion a possibility
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October 05, 2009 11:37 PM
By the way I'm married with 2 kids. My younger brother has a high moral scene of honor. he has considered marring her. He fears child support and the negitves it bring with it. Abortion is out of the question for him and if she did that he would leave her like a bat out of hell.
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October 05, 2009 11:49 PM
I wouldnt suggest he think about paying child support. Instead, why not opt for joint custody? It may seem weird to consider having a child grow up with up to parents, but with a supportive family (who arent constantly fighting in front of him as marriage would invariably lead to, if a relationship hasn't already established between the two) the child has a better chance of at least leading a stable life. Child support seems like a horrible method of taking care of your burdens. At best it's a s--tty way of apologizing for not being around that does nothing for the kid and at worst its a glorified form of prostitution.
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October 06, 2009 05:21 PM
Well, this is a hard question to answer.. I would sign up for abortion.
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October 07, 2009 01:21 AM
He should "do the right thing". Not necessarily marry her, but they both need to take responsibility for their actions. If she wants him to or will let him be involved, he should be. In the pregnancy (i.e. Lamaze classes), the birth, the child's life, everything. They both need to decide whether or not to keep the baby. I am against abortion 100% not only because I think it is murder but because there are so many other options now. It is free to give a baby up for adoption anywhere in the U.S. All you have to do is sign a few papers. Abortions are not free unless the state you live in requires them to be. And, ask anyone who has ever had an abortion, they will both regret it for the rest of their lives. Another option is the Baby Safe Haven program. All you have to do is drop the baby off at any police station & they will take care of everything, no questions asked. Well, ok, they ask a couple of questions like what the baby's name is & things like that but you don't have to answer. If they decide to keep the baby & she wants him to be involved they need to decide how he will be involved. They could stay together for the sake of the baby (not necessarily get married, but that's an option as well), they could have joint custody, he could have partial custody with or without paying child support, he could just pay child support & never see the child, but what is important is that they decide together.
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October 07, 2009 01:45 AM
A very thought full answer. Abortion and adaption are not on the table, because we think she got pregnant to trap my brother.
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