RUN! Run fast as you can!!! Get it out of your head. It's not worth it.

You'll have to stay as far away as you can from that. You have to be like an angel on earth - love people and be there, but can't interact with the humans...

Nothing good can come of this.

Ignore him and ignore him again.

If he makes advances, tell him in no uncertain terms that you are NOT interested.

If he continues to make advances, then go ahead and tell your hubby.

Remember, if it blows up, everybody gets hurt and since this is Family, everybody will be hurting for the next 40 or so years.

Having a crush on you seems like no big deal. Hes spending time with your husband to be close to you. How do you feel when hes in the room? does he make you uncomfortable? Did he tell you that he finds you attractive? If your sister were to flirt with your husband would it bother you? what would you tell your sister? What do think your husband would say ? Lets say you dont tell your husband even though you ment no harm it may make him feel betrayed. In any relationship communication and understanding will make the bond between you and your husband stronger. Tell your husband and he will help you with what you need to do.

The best thing you should do is simply ignore him. Pretend that you didn't notice his feelings for you (or has he told you?) and when you talk with him, be decent and avoid talking about you and him. That's the best way to stop him. You don't need to tell your husband because it might result in a big trouble. You should not give into temptations. Be strong and show to the guy that you're not interested. It worked for me many times (lol, ask me) so I hope this helps... Besides, you cannot hurt your family.

If you make a point to totally ignore him, your husband may notice your change in attitude and wonder what's going on. It could possibly make him suspicious. I don't know your husband, but if he's the jealous type he might assume there's an actual affair, or if he's not, he could be flattered that another man envies his beautiful wife.

Adults can get crushes just like kids do, but that doesn't necessarily mean he wants to do anything more than to admire you from afar. If it's just an innocent infatuation, there's really no reason to let your husband in on it. Could be he's already aware of it and wonders if you are, too.

If BIL has acted inappropriately or made suggestive remarks, you need to let him know in no uncertain terms that you are not interested. If he continues to make you uncomfortable, then it's time to talk to your husband about the situation and let him handle it.

I don't believe in keeping secrets from a partner, but then there's no reason to stir up trouble if it's not necessary. Some things are best left on a "need to know" basis.

If I were in your position, I would have told my husband. Because, I know my husband is a decent man and know how to keep the family relations. We are the center of the family circle. Everyone else is little away from the center. We don't lie to each other everything under the sun. So if my brother in law is having a crush on me, he will be the first one I am going to tell about this. So when the next time the in laws come to visit us, my husband will be keeping him busy with conversation and other boy things to have "quality" time with the brother in law. I think, eventually my brother in law gets the hint that he cannot lure me. Men like this one are not trust worthy. I guess, he is not satisfied with your sister in law and trying to find a way to cheat on her. He is not trust worthy. If you have feelings for this man, be careful!!! He is a cheater by nature.