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Should all problems in a relationship be worked out prior to marriage, or can some wait until after the wedding?
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November 07, 2009 08:47 AM
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I believe that any problem should be worked out before any important event such as the wedding. I think if the couple can help it they should not let conflicts and problems left unsolved. These are not good for a relationship because these might pile up and they will be overwhelmed making it difficult for them to solve especially if the problems concerns relationships.
It would be good and healthy for them to commit each other in a marriage devoid of hurt, misunderstanding, and other disagreements. Although, these cannot be avoided because they have lots of things to think of and to consider in preparing for the wedding. It would be good for them to commit to each other free or hurt and sentiments from each other. They will be able to face a new chapter in their life as married couple which is full of optimism.
It would be good and healthy for them to commit each other in a marriage devoid of hurt, misunderstanding, and other disagreements. Although, these cannot be avoided because they have lots of things to think of and to consider in preparing for the wedding. It would be good for them to commit to each other free or hurt and sentiments from each other. They will be able to face a new chapter in their life as married couple which is full of optimism.
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November 07, 2009 06:11 AM
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If your asking for help that probably means an agreement for post ponement from boath parties, to resolve what ever disputes are occuring or might occure if nuptules take place. Its kind of a vague question. If the problem involves other family members IE Mother in law father in law existing children religon sex, then waiting will not stringthen a relationship. Communication from both sides and establishing guidlines is what will make the marriage work.. Are the problems, things that just bother you? like the way he or she chews food. If its the latter then look at what is really important discard those things that can be over looked.
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November 07, 2009 03:08 PM
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I do not think that all problems can be resolved in a relationship before or after a wedding. Relationships always have their ups and downs therefore how can ALL problems get resolved. If it is problem that might interfer in the marriage such as being unsure of what is about to take place then YES resolve it. Other than that I do not feel a relationship is ever free of problems.
However, I do feel that a strong relationship should be that where each partner feels comfortable enough to disscuse any problems that might occur and have a satisfying result for both.
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However, I do feel that a strong relationship should be that where each partner feels comfortable enough to disscuse any problems that might occur and have a satisfying result for both.
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November 08, 2009 04:11 PM
So many people insist that problems are part of every relationship. I used to think so too. But now that I'm with the right person the only problems we have are with other people, not each other.
Why did I ever think that it was okay to be with someone I wasn't perfect with? Society doesn't always teach us the right things. It's flawed logic in my opinion. Fatalistic even, to assume that problems are "normal".
If you have problems with someone it might be time to look at the possibility that you're with the wrong person, or not ready for a mature relationship, and not let marriage even be a consideration. Seriously.
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Why did I ever think that it was okay to be with someone I wasn't perfect with? Society doesn't always teach us the right things. It's flawed logic in my opinion. Fatalistic even, to assume that problems are "normal".
If you have problems with someone it might be time to look at the possibility that you're with the wrong person, or not ready for a mature relationship, and not let marriage even be a consideration. Seriously.
November 09, 2009 03:28 PM
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Hi,
The real life in my opinion starts after the marriage. In this case:
-you must be understandable
-you have to be supportive
-be positive
-offer love
-be responsive
-respectful
-patient
In fact the problems can arise from
-families mostly
-boss
-culture
-believes
Many of us are still going ahead in life as family member. Create a peaceful environment an offer more in everything ,don't' expect anything back.
Cheers,hope you find my answer clear and helpful
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The real life in my opinion starts after the marriage. In this case:
-you must be understandable
-you have to be supportive
-be positive
-offer love
-be responsive
-respectful
-patient
In fact the problems can arise from
-families mostly
-boss
-culture
-believes
Many of us are still going ahead in life as family member. Create a peaceful environment an offer more in everything ,don't' expect anything back.
Cheers,hope you find my answer clear and helpful
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November 09, 2009 10:01 PM
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I'm not sure that ALL problems can be worked out before a marriage. If MrsPsionandy waited for me to be perfect then she'd still be waiting to become MrsPsionandy.
That said, Marriage is a big step, and if there are major problems going into it then is not going to be built on a solid foundation. And thats likely to tear it apart pretty quickly.
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And on the quest for her Mr. Right
She said, "I do", where the lonely give in
They were married on the way and oh
Nothing's sadder than the words
'It might have been'
Swallowing hard 'cause you knew better before
Desperate for someone to blame
And does it matter that he's gone again?
And nothing's sadder than the words
'It might have been'
She was the one the bouquet deceived
Believer who never could believe
Now she's the one who's lonely again
She's wondering how it might've been
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http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=CGvVb2QYlt4
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That said, Marriage is a big step, and if there are major problems going into it then is not going to be built on a solid foundation. And thats likely to tear it apart pretty quickly.
---quote---
And on the quest for her Mr. Right
She said, "I do", where the lonely give in
They were married on the way and oh
Nothing's sadder than the words
'It might have been'
Swallowing hard 'cause you knew better before
Desperate for someone to blame
And does it matter that he's gone again?
And nothing's sadder than the words
'It might have been'
She was the one the bouquet deceived
Believer who never could believe
Now she's the one who's lonely again
She's wondering how it might've been
---quote----
http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=CGvVb2QYlt4
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November 10, 2009 06:10 PM
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I think that all problems should be worked out before marriage. I am not married myself, but I see marriage as getting a new start in the relationship. If I marry someone, I would like to put them in the past. I wouldn't want something from the past to ruin my marriage. Especially when we could have dealt with them at a previous time.
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November 11, 2009 04:22 AM
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There are always going to be problems, before during and after a marriage. The joy of marring the right person is being able to discuss all problems, and have a plan of action to working them out, or being able to figure out how to move past them together, as a couple. You dont have to work out everything prior to a marriage, but I think they should at least be discussed so that each partner knows what they are getting into. You have to learn to be open, and honest with your partner, before you choose to say vows to be with them forever.
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